Dieting From The Inside Out
- Mar 27

You Are A Statistic | DFIO Ep.261

About Today’s Episode:

Welcome back to Dieting from the Inside Out!

Today is going to be a very different episode—it’s a solo episode and we are going to be talking about 3 different, but related, topics.

When I was thinking about what I was going to talk about today, I couldn’t decide between these 3 topics, so I just decided that I was going to cover all 3 in a single episode.

These topics might upset a few people, but I’m here to help you—not just make you feel good.

Let's get into it!

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 Intro & About Today’s Episode

01:42 Our Sponsors

06:02 You Are A Statistic

18:44 Can You Logically Explain How You Get Results for Yourself?

30:26 Faster is Not Always Better

36:00 Recap

36:48 Outro—Freebies & How to Apply for Coaching

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You Are A Statistic | DFIO Ep.261

0:00:00.0 Jared Hamilton: Are you leaving quitting as an option on the table? Are you leaving, "being a statistic", as a viable option on the table? Are you leaving, "Oh, this may not work. I might just give up and throw in the towel", as an option on the table? You can't be, what I call, half-pregnant. But if you're already one foot out the door, if you're like, "Okay. Well, I'm gonna try this, but if it doesn't work, whatever", you're gonna unconsciously find ways to validate those decisions and those behaviors. Then you wonder why you're gonna fail? Come on now.

0:00:27.2 Jared Hamilton: What's going on, friends? Welcome back to a brand new episode of Dieting from the Inside Out. If you're new here, welcome to my show. My name is Jared Hamilton, and I'm so glad that you're here. This is a very different episode today. It is a solo episode. But I could... There are these three things I was debating on talking about. It's funny, 'cause I was like, "Okay, what do I want to talk about on this the solo episode?" 'cause we've been doing a ton of guest episodes lately. And I love those, but I also like to throw in a good amount of solo episodes, 'cause that's what you guys seem to resonate a lot with as well.

0:00:57.5 Jared Hamilton: And there are these three different concepts I was thinking about. And I'm like, "Well, do I want to talk about this, this, or this?" So I just said, "Fuck it", and we're gonna talk about all three on this episode. So the only notes that I have is on this Post-it Note right here. If you're watching the video, these are the... This Post-it Note I'm holding up, is the only notes I have for today. Just speak up with these three things and we're just gonna see kind of how this goes and just see what comes out and what comes through, and whatnot. And that's just 'cause I'm basing it off of how I'm feeling like, "You know what? I think I just should talk about all three of these. Who knows maybe they'll all kind of tie together." But trust me, you're gonna want to stick around for the whole thing, 'cause I just have a feeling this is gonna be really good.

0:01:39.0 Jared Hamilton: I don't know, I could be wrong. But before we get into the big three, I do want to have a big thank you to the sponsors of the show. So let's go ahead and go through that real quick. Sponsor number one is FlexPro Meals, because they keep me fed. I actually need to go down in our basement and we have a big deep freezer and I need to bring up my next load of meals, because I blew through my last ones. The thing with FlexPro, guys, is it's just... It's the convenience factor, that's all it is. Is if you can find a way to make your habits in a more convenient way, like, happen, you're gonna win. As long as it's sustainable and doable for your life, you're going to win 'cause that's the ultimate game changer for so much of the success you're trying to have is, "Well is it convenient and practical?" And for most people... To be honest, most people live off convenience. So this is why having FlexPro, even just a handful of meals in your, just on deck, can be so helpful.

0:02:33.9 Jared Hamilton: Like even me, I don't have them every single meal by any means. I may have a meal a day, maybe. It's really when I'm like either we didn't make food, or I'm traveling, or I'm out and about, or I don't have time to make food, or whatever the case is. 'Cause I know that's gonna happen, right? Just like I'm sure it's gonna happen in your life. Kids' soccer practice, dance, or pickup line at school, taking your kid to dance practice, your work, school, overtime, the whole nine yards. Well, this is when you end up in drive throughs, getting food that once... If you have... If you go through a drive-through two, three, four times a week, that can absolutely obliterate your results 'cause it makes it hard to keep things in check. It can be more expensive 'cause you can't go to freaking Wendy's anymore without spending like... Like, I'm not even... I was at Chipotle recently and I went through Chipotle and my meal was $16 for like one meal, right? So not only is it costing you time, costing you your goals, but now it's even costing you more financially.

0:03:26.7 Jared Hamilton: So having something like FlexPro, that's gonna be cheaper than any of those, more convenient and in-line for your goals, it just makes sense. So be sure and check them out, flexpromeals.com, or go hit the link in the description. But because we all like saving money, if you use my code, "HAMILTONTRAINED", it'll save you like 20% at checkout.

0:03:46.5 Jared Hamilton: Sponsor number two is 1st Phorm. Big thank you to them because guys, I just don't want your money going to the wrong places. Like one of my things that I hate to see the most, is people either run into the grocery store like Walmart or Costco, or hop on Amazon and they're like, "Which product is the cheapest and tastes the least like shit?", like protein powder or whatever the case is. And the problem is, because of how unregulated the supplement industry is, it makes that really hard to get the quality that you need. I mean, the fact that an insane amount of the products that are on Walmart shelves right now, or were on Walmart shelves, got in trouble for inaccurate labels, or amino spiking, or all these other different things. And people were buying it and these were reputable brands that had all these problems. That's the thing, is you want to... In the world of supplements, you want to make sure you're getting the quality that you need. Like if it says 25 grams of protein, you want to make sure it's actually 25 grams of protein. Not, it says 25 grams and you're getting 13 grams. Then it makes you wonder what all the other shit is, right.

0:04:44.3 Jared Hamilton: So with 1st Phorm, it's such a no-brainer because I just love having the peace of mind knowing that I can shop there, we can send our clients there, and they can get the right stuff that's safe, that's been tested, that's proven and the whole nine yards. So definitely check them out. There's a link below to see what they have going on their site and whatnot. And if you're not sure where to start with supplements, go watch my YouTube video that I'll have linked below on where... Like what I take, what our clients take and where to get started with supplements. 'cause that's the thing, is they're not the end all be all, they're just to fill the gaps you are not getting with food. And with you... For most people, maybe you... Most people struggle getting protein in without going over on calories. Most people are not getting all the servings of fruits and vegetables a day. Most people feel like shit and they have no energy and things like that. Their inflammation is high. And, well, if you're not getting that help with food, we need to seek other options like maybe supplements. So definitely check that out. But yeah, that's it for that section... The sponsor section of the show. Let's get into the meat and potatoes, the whole, the actual sustenance of today's episode.

0:05:44.6 Jared Hamilton: 'cause like I said, when... I don't have hardly any notes for this. I have a list of three things I want to talk to you about. So we'll just see what kind of comes out 'cause I was thinking, honest to God, I was thinking about doing this in a, like, three different, solo episodes. But I just feel like I should talk about them all right now. So let's get into it. So right out of the gate, I'm gonna make a statement that may upset some of you. And that's okay 'cause I'm not here to... I'm here to help you not just make you feel good, 'cause chances are if I just make you feel good, it's enabling your bad behavior. So you're a statistic. If you are listening to this, you are absolutely a statistic. Like I'll put it this way, if you're listening to this episode, this podcast, you're a statistic. If you have ever downloaded a free workout plan, a guide, or like, let's I say you just you...

0:06:35.2 Jared Hamilton: Let's say you just downloaded my big Project 90, my free 90-day blueprint... If you haven't got that, you'll want to. I'll link that in the description as well. Like, actually, I told everyone that downloaded it, I told them the same thing. I'm like, "You all are a statistic as of right now." Because here's the truth, most free guides get downloaded and they live inside your inbox forever, and never get opened, never get executed on. Most people who listen to a podcast like this that is about about getting better, becoming a better version of yourself, losing weight, improving your life, developing yourself, whatever. Most people listen to these kind of shows, and then don't do anything with the content. Most people say... Or you know, they'll follow the Instagram pages, they'll follow all the health accounts and they're like, "Oh, yeah, I'm gonna do that." And then they don't.

0:07:27.0 Jared Hamilton: So you have to understand, from the moment you hit play, from the moment you downloaded the guide, from the moment you hit follow on that Instagram page with the best at-home workouts or whatever the case is, you're a statistic. You are the overwhelming population who just do that stuff and don't do anything with it. So then the question is, "How do you not become a statistic?" And the answer is, "Execute and get results", that simple. But the question is, "Why aren't you though?" Like, why do so many people... Like, think about it, of course, there's a small handful of executors, those of you that are listening to this... I mean, I would hope that... I would hope my show pulls down a few more executors than like the... Like, say 3% of whatever. But let's say, it's 10... Let's say 10% of the people that listen to my show, actually go and execute. It's one of those things where, from the moment you started playing this, you're a statistic. From the moment you downloaded that guide, you are a statistic. And the overwhelming statistic is you don't do shit. So the question is, "Are you going to be a statistic?"

0:08:35.5 Jared Hamilton: I remembered when I got married, from the moment I got married, 50% of marriage... Actually, I think it's over 50%... Actually, let me look real quick since we're just on the show. I think it's over 50% now... What? I'm just gonna Google this percentage, if I can spell... It's, "Percentage of marriages end in divorce"... So when I got married, it was right at 50, I believe. Internet says... Wow, my internet is being slow today. Yeah, right now, right about 50%. So I knew from whenever I got married, I had this thought cross my head, I'm like, "Am I... I don't want to be a statistic. I want to be the percentage that stays married. I want to be the percentage that loves their life with their partner", because there's... I put this chip on my shoulders, "I will not become a statistic." So my question for you is, "Are you cool becoming a statistic?"

0:09:31.2 Jared Hamilton: But guys, I can tell you when we have people apply for coaching, I can tell within the first three minutes, if they're going to make excuses, find reasons not to sign-up, find reasons to go to... To make excuses, to not change their life, the whole nine yards. I mean, hell, I've given away so much free coaching over the last few years. And like there's, there's been a... There's someone that just won... I won't mention their name, that... When? I think it was when it was coach Sadie came on board, we gave three different people full rides for our cornerstone coaching program. Three people. Literally, that's like that's so much. Like six months of coaching to three different people, it's crazy. And one of them just ghosted and quit showing up. Like literally, people were... So we actually filled that spot because it wasn't fair to everyone who entered and then this person just falls off. I've had people like, I'm like, "Hey, let's just... Let me just... I'll just... You're struggling, let me just send you this." And then they would just not do it. 'cause you have to understand though, because most people are totally fine being a statistic.

0:10:32.7 Jared Hamilton: I remember when I started in business and I really took it seriously, I did not want to become part of the statistic of the vast majority of businesses that fail. That's crazy. Like in the world of business... Uh, we'll look that up real quick. "What percentage of... " It's overwhelming... "... Of businesses fail?" I think it's in like the first five years. But it's like, I want to say it's like 80-90% of most businesses just fail right out of the gate. And it's one of those things where I knew I put that chip on my shoulder and I said, "I don't want to be a statistic. I do not want to be a statistic that tried this and failed." And just... And it's... Don't get me wrong, failure's part of the process and getting getting knocked down, but you know what I mean? I didn't want to become part of the statistic that stays down, that like, "Oh, well I did it and it never worked."

0:11:25.6 Jared Hamilton: But when it comes to this stuff, you're a statistic. The moment you hit play, the moment you've downloaded that guide, the one thing, the only thing that makes you not a statistic, is action and execution. Forget even getting results. I know I mentioned it earlier, but forget that. 'cause you do realize if you put in to action and execute, you will get result, or get results. One plus one is always two. It's the same thing here. If you execute ruthlessly, and put in your due diligence, and your action and your effort, you will always get results. Very rarely though, is it within your timing? Usually it's like, "Oh my gosh, I've been consistent for like three weeks. Why am I not shredded yet?" And it's like, "Well, there's your problem." But, you have to understand that the one thing that will make you not a statistic, is ruthless action in showing up for yourself. And that's all that has to happen. That's what's crazy. It's so simple.

0:12:16.1 Jared Hamilton: It's so... I would... I mean, I don't want to say easy, but it's so simple. I would even argue it is easy. It's just easier not to do it. Which for some people makes it really hard. Making your bed's easy, it's just easier not to do it. Working out's easy, it's just easier to not do it. Eating right's easy, it's just easier not to do it. Taking five minutes to do a journal session is easy as fuck. It's just easier than fuck to not do it. And the easier part is what makes it astronomically hard for a lot of people. Now, that's right out of the gate, that's the first thing I wanted to talk to you about is, "You're statistic right now, listening to this." And if you're cool with being a statistic, awesome. But this show is not for statistics. This show... I do this show and do what I do, because I want to help you, and I want to change your life, and I want you to literally never be the same. And it's one of those things where the only way for you to not be a statistic, is execute ruthlessly and don't stop until you get the result you have.

0:13:18.3 Jared Hamilton: It blows me away how many people leave failure as a viable option on the table, leave quitting as a viable option on the table. Like I remember in business years ago, before business was in a good place, it was when... No, no, I'm sorry. Yeah, like business was doing okay, but I had someone tell me, they said, "Jared... "... They were getting political and they were like, "Oh Jared, if this person gets voted into office, your business will shut down." They're like if this person gets in office, like, "Yeah, you will lose everything", because they were scared they were gonna lose everything with their business. And I looked at them and I said, like, "That's not even an option on my table." And guess what? That person did get voted in office and my business has never done better, if we're being honest. But for them, they said... But in my head, I looked at them and I'm thinking "Are you leaving failure as an option? Are you leaving your business going under as a viable option on the table?", versus the way that I viewed it? I go, "I'm not even leaving that as an option."

0:14:18.4 Jared Hamilton: Like, I will do whatever it takes to work harder, to make it happen, so I don't. I don't. It's not even an option on the table. But the part that you have to audit is, are you leaving quitting as an option on the table? Are you leaving being a statistic... Words, wow. Words are hard... Are you leaving being a statistic as a viable option on the table? Are you leaving, like, "Oh, this may not work. I might just give up and throw in the towel", as an option on the table? You can't be, what I call, half-pregnant. Like, with pregnancy, you either are pregnant or you're not there's no like half-pregnant. But if you're already one foot out the door, if you're like, "Okay. Well, I'm gonna try this, but if it doesn't work, whatever", you're gonna unconsciously find ways to validate those decisions and those behaviors. Then you wonder why you're gonna fail. Come on now. It's like, imagine if you get into a marriage and your partner has one foot in... Like already picked up divorce papers in case it doesn't work. Their head is already over there. And you wonder why they don't put in the effort in your marriage.

0:15:16.4 Jared Hamilton: It's the same thing here. So many of you are okay with the outcome that you don't want. I always say there's a human... Or, psychology teaches us that pain is the number one driver of human behavior... Pain, or perception of pain, right. It's like, which one hurts worse. The problem is, so many of you are so used to being in pain, it doesn't hurt as much anymore. It blows me away. Well, I'll be on a call with someone and they'll tell me. I'm like, "Why do you even want to get into coaching? Why do you even want to apply? Why do you even want to do this?" And they give the deepest, shittiest... Like, it's a great answer, but it hurts. They're like, "Oh, it's for my kids. My kids are following in my footsteps. I'm not happy. I've been struggling for decades. My binge eating is uncontrollable, none of my clothes fit. I'm a recluse. I literally look for excuses not to go out and have fun and enjoy my life because I hate everything about myself. It's uncontrollable. It's affecting my mental health. I can't enjoy my kids. I can't get on the ground and play with my grandkids. I'm gonna die 10 years early... Da, da, da, da, da."

0:16:20.6 Jared Hamilton: And then the golden opportunity presents itself, I'm like, "Alright, let's lock arms and do this", and all of a sudden, it's like, "Oh, let me think about it." Like, "Cool." Like, I'm never gonna not tell some... I'm not gonna convince you to coach, but in part of my head, I go, "Wait a second, you literally just told me your kids are following in your footsteps. You literally just told me you're gonna die 10 years early", which means your kids are gonna die 10 years early because they're gonna follow in mom's footsteps. And you literally just told me it's costing you the quality of your entire life. So... Maybe it's just me, but the only other option doesn't seem it's going back to that, right? So this is... But this is the thing is, what it comes down to, what hurts most. For some people, spending a little bit of money hurts worse than a lifetime of suffering. Or it's... Kyle Cease always said, "In life, we can only measure what we'll lose, we can't measure what we'll gain."

0:17:15.0 Jared Hamilton: It's the same thing with this. And this is, don't get me wrong, this is not a coaching push, I'm just using it as an example. But most people though, leave, "Going back to the way things were", as an option on the table. "Oh, if this doesn't work, it's fine." It's like, I don't know what world you live in, but that's not where I want to live. That's not what this show is for. I don't... I would hate to... I would hate for you to listen to this show for, like, several years, and then you're in the same place three years... Like I would hate for you... I've been doing the show for like five years, I would hate for you to be in the same spot you were when episode one came out. But that's the, "Being the statistic". So my question is, "Are you okay being a statistic?" If so, cool. Like, I'll never understand that, but you do you. But I think it's important, we have to have this conversation that most people are a statistic, and stay just absorbing the information and never execute on it. But the truth is you don't need more information. You need help executing it.

0:18:11.1 Jared Hamilton: I'll be honest with you. 98% of the people who even get into coaching, or download my free programs, or whatever, they know what to do. The information is not the issue, it's the executing they suck at. Which is why accountability helps, which is why a support system helps, which is why making sure the actions are sustainable for executing. The problem isn't information. The problem is executing. So that's the first point with this is, you're a statistic. And the only way for you to not be a statistic, is ruthless action and execution. And not even leaving failure and not getting what you want as a option on the table.

0:18:44.0 Jared Hamilton: Okay, next. So that was point number one. I feel like maybe I should have done a whole episode on that. Number two, there's one question I need you to explain to me. There's one thing I need you to explain. I did a whole email on this and it got a pretty good response. So I think I'm curious how it'll go here. Can you explain this one thing to me? This is the second thing I wanna talk about. Can you logically explain to me how you create results for yourself? Because here's the thing, like let's say you're going to... The vast majority of you are going about this transformation game all on your own, right? 'Cause it's just not practical to think... Like we can't coach thousands of people at once, or whatever the case is.

0:19:25.3 Jared Hamilton: So... But so, let's say you're listening to this and going about this game of trying to lose weight, keep it off, change your life, whatever. Can you explain to me logically, how you're gonna make that happen? Here's the reason why I say this. If you can't just tell me how you're gonna do it, how do you expect to actually do it in real life? Here's the way that I view it. I'm a coach, that's what I do for a living. I built an entire coaching company at scale. So I've been doing this for a while. But imagine this, let's say you're interested in coaching, but I couldn't explain to you how we make results happen. I'm like, "Yeah, we kind of do this thing and then this other thing and then we just kind of base it on what's going on and then we kind of make changes from there."

0:20:04.5 Jared Hamilton: How... Do you feel like you could execute that plan? Well, probably not. So does it not make sense? Like, if I'm a coach, I coach people, my team coaches people, we should be able to logically explain to you our process to make results happen. That just makes sense logically. So my question is, "If you're going about this on your own, can you explain logically how you make results happen?" Like, "You're here, you wanna get over there and stay over there. So can you explain to me how you're gonna do that?" Because if you can't, how the fuck do you plan on getting your actions in check? This explains so many issues. If you can't explain logically, "Hey, here's how I'm gonna make this happen, your actions are not gonna be there."

0:20:50.6 Jared Hamilton: It's like think of a business plan, you're going to the bank to get a loan for your business and they wanna see a business plan, you're like, "No, I'm just gonna make it happen." They're not gonna give you the loan. They're like, "If you can't explain to me how you're gonna become profitable, I'm not gonna give you money." It's the same thing here. But most of you, most people that are struggling, probably the most of you that are listening to this, are just like, winging it. You're like, "Oh, I'm just gonna like do all the shit I see online and throw it to the wall and see what sticks. I'm gonna do this workout plan here and hope for the best. I'm gonna follow this crazy diet and hope for the best. I'm gonna do this, whatever, take these supplements, I'm gonna do this thing and hope for the best." I'm like, "Yeah. And then you wonder why within, like, two weeks you fall off? You wonder why you may lose a bunch of weight, then you'll gain it back the next month?"

0:21:30.5 Jared Hamilton: So please hear me when I say this, if you cannot logically explain to me how you're going to get from here to here, and stay there, your actions are not gonna follow through. So let me give you an example 'cause my brain works in examples. If you said... Let's reverse roles. If you said "Jared, how do you create results with your clients? You work with hundreds of people. You've worked with hundreds of people for years at a time, how do you create results with anyone who comes into your coaching program?" I'd go, "That's a great question." Here's how I would answer that, I would say, "Right out the gate, you're not ready to lose weight yet. We gotta fix the foundation first. You haven't earned the right to lose weight." 'Cause I know if you're coming in, you've probably binge eat, you probably emotionally eat, your metabolism's probably fucked. You probably have years or even decades of conditioning around failure. So I know that you're probably not ready to lose weight yet. But that's what most coaches do. Most coaches go, "Yo, let's throw you into a calorie deficit. Do this restrictive diet." And then it's no wonder when they leave, your results go with them.

0:22:25.6 Jared Hamilton: So if you say, "Jared, how do you create results?" I go, "Well, right out of the gate, we're gonna fix your foundation first. We're going to stop binge eating first. We're gonna fix your emotional eating first. We're going to stop the unconscious sabotage pattern that happens all the time so now you actually be able to keep the weight off. Then we're, on top of it, gonna fix your consistency and discipline so you don't have to work as hard. Then we're also going to fix your entire relationship with food so there's no guilt, remorse or anything like that. And then to make it even easier, we're going to fix your metabolism, that way, you don't have to starve yourself when it's time to lose weight. We'll just call that stage one. We'll call that diet from the inside out. We'll call that stage one, okay? Now that we did that, now you've earned your golden ticket to go into the weight loss stage."

0:23:14.8 Jared Hamilton: Because even... So now when we're going into weight loss and now it's like, "Okay, now that we fixed that, we're gonna go into the stage, we'll call it the boring work stage. Now we can actually focus on fat loss. This is where we're gonna have inches come off. This is where the scale's gonna start to move. This is where your clothes are gonna fit. This is where your hairdresser's gonna be like, "Hey, what are you doing? You look different every time I cut your hair. So like, what are you doing?" But we're gonna do it all in a way where you're in the smallest calorie deficit possible. So that way you're losing weight without having a starve yourself. We're doing it while eating your favorite foods every single day. That way there's no binge eating, no guilt, no deprivation, where your favorite foods are actually part of your plan. We're gonna have you exercise and train in the least amount possible, to create the results that you want. And we're gonna optimize all of this stuff around your life in what's doable and practical and sustainable. It's not that big of a deal versus the other way around where you bend your life inside, out and sideways for fitness. Okay? But we're gonna, create all that... Get all that stuff to happen, but without low calorie diets, diets with their own name. Without starving and without sabotage. You follow me so far?"

0:24:25.9 Jared Hamilton: Then, because of the way that we do this, this is just the way we do things... Then we need to go into, we'll call it stage three, we'll call it the mastery stage. This is where your exit strategy comes in place because I'm just gonna make an assumption. I'm assuming you wanna keep the weight off forever. I'm gonna assume that you don't want to diet forever. So now that we fixed your foundation, then we went through that stage two where we lost the weight in the most chill way possible, now it's time for your exit strategy, stage three. This is where we're going to come out of your diet, come out of your deficit, where now you're going to go throughout life with your newfound results without doing another diet, without being always scared of carbs or calories or anything like that. With being on a very maintenance level of everything. Maintenance level with your nutrition, maintenance level with your training, maintenance level with all that stuff. Because when I say maintenance level, I'm meaning the bare minimum amount to keep your success. It's, "We don't need to be as intensive as like when it comes to the normal fat loss stage." That's why we're not gonna be counting calories forever or tracking whatever forever, anything like that. So in the stage three is where with our clients we work, we start to move out of the picture.

0:25:34.5 Jared Hamilton: This is where you would "Graduate", where you can go through life with your newfound results without ever having to worry about anything, where you're totally free from food, you're totally free from diet culture, you're totally free from, I'll be honest, yourself. So that's how we create results. But do you see how like... And here's that, again, this is not like a coaching pitch, I'm just giving you an example. Do you see how logical that was? Was that not relatively easy to follow, but then it also makes sense, you go, "Huh, yeah, I guess I shouldn't just jump into fat loss if I got all that other bullshit going on, so I should probably fix that. Then we're gonna lose the weight in a sustainable way, like he said. And then yeah, an exit strategy". Like that makes sense.

0:26:15.5 Jared Hamilton: So my question or my thing is this, if you cannot do that to your own... If you cannot... If I say, "How do you create results?", and you cannot give me an answer similar to that... I'm not saying like mine... But, if you cannot give me an answer that's similar, like a systematic, logical-sounding approach. Like, "Yup, we're gonna go here and then do this and do this and do some of that stuff and do this" and whatever, we've got big problems. 'Cause if, again, if you can't logically explain it, you're not gonna execute it. Otherwise, that would be like expecting a child to run before they can walk or crawl. Well, like, "Hang on, you have to be able to walk... I'm sorry, you have to be able to crawl, then walk, then you're allowed to... Then running mechanics work. But if you can't explain it in the word stage, how the fuck do you plan on making your actions work in the action stage?"

0:27:05.3 Jared Hamilton: It won't. This is where you'll feel chaotic, feel panicked, feel uncertain as fuck. And you're just like running around being the chaotic weight loss dieter who's like, "I'm trying this and this and this and this and this." And then all of a sudden you get frustrated and you go, "Why have I dieted for the last 5 years, 10 years, and I have nothing to show for it?" That's the problem. And here's a really hard truth. You only have so much of that in your system because every time you lose weight, gain it back, lose weight, gain it back, not only does it fuck up your metabolism, that's proven; that it makes it harder on your metabolism every time you like play this yo-yo game.

0:27:43.5 Jared Hamilton: But then... Because you guys know, it's the podcast is Dieting From The Inside Out, so you guys know, psychology is my jam. Well, every time you do that, you're actually ingraining on a neurological level, in like a neuro pathway level, failure, yo-yo dieting, and struggle, every time. Like you guys know, like repetition is what builds muscle and builds... Like, it's a level of consistency for all the good stuff. Like if you practice guitar every single day, you're gonna get better at guitar every single day. It's the same thing the other way. Every time you yo-yo and try fail, try fail, try, fail, lose some weight, gain more back, lose weight, gain more back. It's like practicing guitar, but the other way. You're getting really good at failing, you're getting really good at gaining your weight back, you're getting really good at struggle. You're getting really good at never getting to where you wanna be. Because once you do so much of that... For those of you that have struggled for years, you'll resonate with this... Because on a really weird level, deep, deep, deep down, if you've struggled for years, that feels kind of like home.

0:28:39.7 Jared Hamilton: It's kind of safe feeling. And the thought of losing weight and keeping it off forever is terrifying because you've never been there. I'm telling you, this is the hard thing about conditioning. Is even if... 'cause your brain is only about self-preservation, it doesn't care about your happiness. So even if it hurts, even if like you hate your life, you don't fit in your clothes, you hate the way you feel, you're gonna die early, the whole nine yards, you can't play with your grandkids. Even though that sucks, the way your brain works, it's like, "Yeah, but it strangely feels like home and at least it's predictable." The thought of losing weight, keeping it off, feeling deserving worthy and happy in my own skin and living a long time, "Holy shit, that's scary as hell." But that's just how psychology works. That's why you wanna stay trapped over there.

0:29:25.8 Jared Hamilton: So again, if you cannot tell me logically or explain to me how you create results for yourself, you're not going to. I'm just gonna be honest with you. So that's how we change this. Now, if you want help with that, if you're like, "I have no idea how to even remotely start with that, and whatever you said sounded really good", just shoot me a message. We still have some spots open for coaching right now. So if you're like, "You know what? What you said sounds way better than what I was thinking. I'd like to see what coaching looks like." There's a link in the description where you can apply for coaching with me and my team and we'll go from there. We have to make sure you're a good fit, those things.

0:30:01.9 Jared Hamilton: But again, this is not a coaching push, but I just felt like I should say that. So that was the second point in this episode. Okay so, so far we're two in, we are the side of, "You're a statistic", talked about that. We talked about the one question you have to be able to ask yourself. You have to... Or can you explain the... The one question is, "Can you explain this to me? Can you explain how you create results?" And then number three, this is the big one... Or not the big one, they're all big... Faster is not always better. So... Excuse me, I did an email on this as well and it just hit. Like, everyone's like, "Oh my gosh, game changer." So a lot of times if something in my email works really well, I like to talk about it on the show because I can just elaborate more.

0:30:47.8 Jared Hamilton: And if you're not on my email list, you'll wanna be. Like, I promise it's not a pitch fest. It's not like spamming or selling your shit. It's just a different medium I give higher level content to, especially if you like to read versus watch or listen. So, you have to understand, faster is not always better for weight loss; that's the the third point.

0:31:11.6 Jared Hamilton: Let me give you an example. Imagine you're going to the grocery store. Imagine... You're home right now and you need to get to Walmart. So for example, in my neck of the woods, I can be at Walmart in 12 minutes. I can be at our nearest Walmart in 12 minutes. Well, I also currently drive a Camaro, so I drive a sports car. Well, what's the fastest way for me to get to the grocery store? Well, my Camaro goes like... I don't know... Like 170 or something like that. Well, if it takes me 12 minutes going 30 miles an hour to get to the grocery store, imagine if I went 100 miles an hour. Well, I'd get there like that. But would I though? On paper, yeah, because a 100 miles an hour is faster than 30. But what would happen if I went a 100 miles an hour to the grocery store? There's construction going on, I have to cross two lanes of highway. I have to go through a few more lights. There's always a school bus around. You see where I'm getting with this? So if I went 100 miles an hour, on paper, it sounds like a good idea. But what would happen in practicality? I would get pulled over, I would run over... Get into a bunch of car accidents, and I'd probably run over kids, and I probably hit a few construction workers. So would it actually be faster? Well, no, not in practicality. You have to understand this, on paper, it always seems like faster is better, but in practicality it never is.

0:32:36.1 Jared Hamilton: Here's another one for you. Imagine you want to make the world's best birthday cake, okay? And the instructions call for 400 degree... Bake this cake for 400 degrees, for 40 minutes. Well, you want your cake faster than that. So what if you just double the heat and drop the time in half? If the instructions say, if the instructions call for bake at 400 degrees for 40 minutes, can you ramp the heat up to 800 degrees for 20 minutes and get the same outcome? Well, of course not. That would be a... You'd probably have a cake that's burned as fuck on the outside and raw as fuck on the inside. It wouldn't turn out. But it makes sense on paper. It makes sense to go, "Wait, if the birthday cake recipe calls for 400 degrees at 40 minutes, I can totally ramp the heat up to 800 and drop it to 20 minutes and I'll have the same result." But in practicality, it doesn't work like that. Just like if my car, if the speed limit is 30 miles an hour and I wanna get to the grocery store faster, me going 100 miles an hour on paper makes sense. But in practicality, it would take me longer because I would get thrown in jail, I'd run over people and get in car accidents and get speeding tickets. So what's the fastest way to bake a cake? Follow the recipe. What's the fastest way to get to the grocery store? Follow the rules of the road.

0:33:54.0 Jared Hamilton: So it's the same thing for you here in weight loss. Most people, they'll drop a little bit of calories, they'll do a workout or two and they'll see some progress and they go, "More is better. Faster is better. More is faster." Well that means you're getting greedy with your progress. So it makes sense on paper to go, "Wait, I cut out a couple hundred calories, I lost weight. Maybe I should cut out a thousand calories. Maybe I should fast for a couple of days at a time. Maybe if I did... If I started working out a couple days a week and I lost weight and I feel better, maybe I should work out every single day." The problem is, on paper, it makes sense, but in practicality it doesn't. Because every time you try to do whatever that thing is, like you try to speed it up, you're doubling your heat and dropping the time on the cake. You're speeding up and now you're getting pulled over by a cop or getting in a car accident, like with that example.

0:34:43.8 Jared Hamilton: Faster is not always better. Rarely is faster, better. Imagine if you're pregnant, and we all know it takes nine months to have a baby give or take. But imagine if the doctor said, "Hey, I have this new shot I can give you and it happens in three months", you wouldn't take it, even though you're like, "Oh, I'd love to." but you're like, "Nah, I'd fuck up the baby. There's gotta be some negative side effects." Faster is never better, rarely is it better because it's always at the expense of something. You never get faster and without the... At the expense of something.

0:35:14.6 Jared Hamilton: So I want you to remember, next time you're thinking about like, "Oh, I wanna speed this up. I wanna get results faster. I wanna... Oh, I should be able... I can just cut some corners here. I can just do some extra cardio. I can just slash my calories again, or I can just... I don't have to eat tonight". No, what you're doing... It's like the birthday cake, or like going to the store, and you're just trying to speed it up. You're gonna ruin it all and it's what's gonna take you longer than ever and that's just how that goes. So, don't be so quick to try to try to speed it up because I promise, speeding up is going to slow you down in the long run because you have to understand, just because it makes sense on paper doesn't mean it's actually going to work in practicality. Otherwise, you would be able to go a 100 miles an hour everywhere you go, with no repercussions. Or you'd be able to double the heat and drop the time at half on that birthday cake and you'd have the exact same product. But that's not how it works.

0:36:01.8 Jared Hamilton: So that is it guys. That is it for today's episode. What we got? Around 35 minutes. Not bad. I was actually surprised I didn't go over a little bit. But those are the three things I really hope this episode hit home. I hope it resonated. I hope it helped you. 'Cause those were the three things, to recap, it was, "You're a statistic and the only thing that makes you a statistic is ruthless action." Number two was, "Can you explain to me how you create results for yourself and keep them? Because if you cannot logically explain to me how to do that, you're not going to do that. Just being honest." And number three, "Faster is not always better for weight loss. Rarely is it better. And if you trying to speed things up is actually slowing you down, and the fastest way is just follow the rules of the road, or follow the instructions, which is slow, and steady, and monotonous. And that's how to make it happen."

0:36:50.0 Jared Hamilton: So that is it for today's episode. Guys, I really appreciate you listening in and being here, means a ton to me, the support has never gone unnoticed. Thank you so much for being here. If you haven't already, be sure, number one, subscribe to the podcast wherever you're listening to it on. If you have not checked on the podcast site, do so. It's dietingfromtheinsideout.com. We have so much there for you. We have the video of the episode, we have the transcription of the episode in a blog format. We have the show notes there, and we have access to every platform that you can find this on and any resource I talk about in the show is right there for you as well. So definitely go check on dietingfromtheinsideout.com.

0:37:24.8 Jared Hamilton: I'm super happy with it. My guy David and his team is incredible with how they got that together. Now also, a few other resources, especially if you're newer. If you're newer here and you're like, "I don't even know where to start. I like the way this sounds, but I don't even know where to get started and this was like drinking out of a fire hose." So I want you to go through my free course. I have for this reason, a free 5-day email course. It's called the Fat Loss Checklist. Do it just every day, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 in a row and it's gonna make this game of fat loss and transformation so simple, so doable, and you're gonna go, "Where has this been my whole life?" So it's totally free, it's in the description.

0:38:04.0 Jared Hamilton: Second thing I want you to do. If you are not part of my Fat Loss Simplified community, you will want to join that so fast. 'Cause here's the thing, you need a home base. If you do not have a home base where you can go to ground yourself, to get supported, to get loved on, to get accountability and to be around people who have what you want and who are in the process of getting what you want, you are missing out. So many of your problems go away, getting around the right group of people. Law of Association works with kids. You know, if you take your kid, put them around bad kids, your kid will turn into a bad kid. He doesn't change them. It's the same thing here with you. If you stay around stuck people who don't have the results you want, who are struggling, who do trendy diets, who are are not the... Who do not live the life you want, you're gonna become just like them.

0:38:49.5 Jared Hamilton: So get around the right kind of people and your life will change unconsciously. And I have cultivated that in a group called Fat Loss Simplified. It's totally free, it's in Facebook. So you already probably have an account, go join that and if you like this kind of content, you'll love what I put in there. And then, if you're not following me on the other socials, like those are there too, like Instagram and TikTok and whatnot. All episodes are on YouTube. So if you would rather watch your podcast versus listen to it, go subscribe to the YouTube. I have a bunch of other content there as well. And then, if you're like, "Man, I really... I would like to have higher level help with this", especially like if what I said resonated with how we create results... 'Cause everyone creates results differently... If you like the vibe of how we do things and like how I do things, and you want to apply for coaching, I'll have a special link below that will take you straight to the front of the line when it comes to the people applying for coaching because you're coming from the podcast. And if you get accepted, you're getting a bunch of free stuff as well. But yeah, that's about it. Otherwise, I appreciate you being here. Thank you so much for tuning in to today's episode. I will see you next week because we drop episodes every single week. I love you and I'll talk soon.

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You Are a Statistic:

I know this is going to upset some of you, but it’s the truth:

You’re a statistic.

If you are listening to this podcast, if you’ve ever downloaded a free workout guide—like my free Project90—you’re a statistic.

The reason why is because most people who download those free guides, who listen to a podcast like this about transforming yourself—they download the content, listen to it, etc., but then don’t actually do anything with it.

Most people will follow the Instagram pages and say, “Yeah, I’m going to do that,” and then don’t.

So you have to understand that from the moment you hit download, from the moment you hit play, from the moment you hit follow… you are a statistic.

You’re part of the overwhelming population who subscribe to this type of content and don’t do anything with it.

So the question is: how do you not become a statistic?

The answer is: execute and get results.

It’s that simple.

The question now is: why aren’t you?

Now, of course, there is a small sample of you listening that are executors—and I hope that my show pulls in more than the average—but most of you are a statistic because you don’t act.

My next question is: are you going to be a statistic?

I remember when I got married, the percentage of marriages that ended in divorce was about 50%. I remember thinking that I don’t want to be a statistic—I want to be in the percentage that stays with and lives a happy life with their partner.

I put a chip on my shoulder—I will not become a statistic.

Are cool being a statistic?

I can tell when we have people apply for coaching—within the first 3 minutes—if they are going to make excuses, find reasons not to sign up, whatever.

It happens with free coaching too. I have given away so much free coaching and, just recently, we gave 3 people 6 months of coaching, free…

…and one of them ghosted and just quit showing up.

We actually filled that spot with another person, because it wasn’t fair to everyone who entered to have someone just stop showing up.

I have had people who I know are really struggling, and I send them material, and they just don’t do it.

Most people are just fine being a statistic.

I remember when I started in business, I did not want to be part of the statistic that the vast majority of businesses fail.

Now, don’t get me wrong, failure is part of the process— but I didn’t want to be part of the statistic that gets knocked down and never tries again.

Again, when it comes to this stuff, the moment you hit download, you are a statistic. The only thing that changes that is action and execution.

Take action and show up for yourself. It’s so simple.

I would even argue that it’s easy. It’s just easiER not to do it.

Making your bed is easy, it’s just easier not to do it.

Working out is easy, it’s just easier not to do it.

Eating healthy is easy, it’s just easier not to do it.

Journaling for 5 minutes is easy, it’s just easier not to do it.

The easiER part is what makes it astronomically hard for some people to take action.

Again, if you're listening to this show, you’re a statistic.

And if you’re okay being a statistic, this show is not for you—because I want you guys to change your lives forever.

Execute ruthlessly and you’ll get results.

It surprises me how many people leave failure as an option. It’s something that you have to audit.

Are you leaving quitting as an option on the table?

Are you leaving being a statistic as an option on the table?

You can’t be what I call “half-pregnant.” You either are pregnant or you’re not. If you’re already one foot out the door and approaching things with the attitude of, “I’m going to try this, and if it doesn’t work, whatever,” then you’re going to find ways to validate those decisions and those behaviors.

It’s like if you get married, but your partner has already picked up divorce papers in case it doesn’t work. It’s no wonder that they aren’t committed.

Pain is the number one driver of human behavior, but so many of you are so used to being in pain that it doesn’t hurt as much anymore.

I’ll be on a call with someone and ask them why they want to do coaching, and it’s always painful answers:

“My kids are following in my footsteps.”

“I’m a recluse.”

“I literally look for reasons not to go out and enjoy my life.”

“It’s affecting my mental health.”

“I’m going to die 10 years early.”

The list goes on.

Then when I say, “okay, let’s lock arms and do this,” it becomes, “...Oh, let me think about it.”

Which is fine—I’ll never pressure someone into coaching—but it blows my mind.

To me, it sounds like there is no choice but to change—but it comes down to what hurts most.

For some people, spending a little bit of money hurts worse than a lifetime of suffering.

Kyle Cease says, “In life, we can only measure what we’ll lose. We can’t measure what we’ll gain.”

It’s the same thing with this.

Most people are okay with leaving failure as an option on the table.

I don’t know what world you live in, but that’s not where I want to live. That’s not what this show is for. I would hate for you guys to listen to this show for several years and stay in the same place.

I have been doing this show for over 5 years and I would hate for you to be in the same place as you were when episode 1 came out

I think it’s important that we have this conversation that most people are a statistic. They keep absorbing more and more information, but you don’t need more information, you need help executing.

I’ll be honest with you, 98% of people who get into coaching know what they need to do, they just need help executing. They need that accountability.

The problem isn’t information, the problem is not executing—and leaving failure as an option.

So, point one: you’re a statistic and the only way to not be a statistic is ruthless execution and action.

Can You Logically Explain How You Get Results for Yourself?

I did an email on this and got a pretty good response, so I wanted to expand on it here.

Can you logically explain to me how you get results for yourself?

Most of you are going through this transformation game by yourself. Let’s say you are trying to lose weight, change your life, etc.—can you logically explain to me how you will get results for yourself?

Here’s the reason why I ask:

If you can’t tell me how you’re going to do it, you can’t expect to do it in real life.

For example, I’m a coach, and I have built a coaching business at scale—but imagine if I couldn’t explain to you how we get results.

If I just said, “yeah we do this thing, and then we do this, and we just kind of make changes from there.”

Do you feel like you could execute that plan?

Probably not.

So, if you are doing this on your own, you need to be able to explain how you get results for yourself.

You're starting here and you want to get over there—and stay over there. How are you going to do that?

If you can’t explain—logically—how you are going to make this happen, it’s no wonder you can’t get your actions in check.

If you walk into a bank for a business loan, but you don’t have a business plan, you aren’t going to get a loan.

Most of you who are struggling are just out here winging it.

You’re approaching things like, “I’m just going to do all this stuff online and see what sticks,” or “I’m going to do this workout plan and crazy diet, and hope for the best.”

And then you wonder why you fall off after two weeks or why you lose a bunch of weight and then gain it back the next month.

Please hear me when I say, if you cannot logically explain to me how you’re going to get from one point to the next point—and stay there—your actions are not going to follow through.

Let’s reverse roles. If you asked me, “Jared, how do you create results with your clients? You work with hundreds of people.”

I would say, right out of the gate, we have to fix the foundations—you haven’t earned the right to lose weight yet.

Because you probably binge eat, you probably emotionally eat, you probably have years or even decades of conditioning around failure, I know you’re not ready to lose weight.

We are going to fix your foundations first.

We’re going to stop the unconscious sabotage pattern so you’ll be able to keep the weight off.

We’re going to fix your binge eating, fix your consistency, and discipline so you don’t have to work as hard.

We’re going to fix your relationship with food so there’s no guilt and we’re going to fix your metabolism so that when it is time to lose weight, you won’t have to starve yourself.

We’ll call that Stage One: “Dieting From The Inside Out.”

Now that we have done that, you’ve earned your golden ticket into the fat loss stage. We’ll call it the “Boring Work” stage.

This is where you’ll lose inches.

This is where your clothes will start to fit.

This is where people will start to ask you what you’re doing.

We are going to do this with the smallest calorie deficit possible—you’ll be eating your favorite foods every single day so there’s no binge eating and no guilt.

We are going to have you exercise and train the least amount possible for your goals and we are going to optimize all of this stuff around your life, so it’s not that big of a deal—you won’t have to bend your life around fitness.

We are going to get all that stuff to happen without low-calorie diets, starvation, guilt, etc.

Then we’ll go into Stage 3, we’ll call it the “Mastering” stage.

This is where your exit strategy comes into place.

We are going to come out of your deficit so you can go through life with your newfound results—and have your maintenance level nutrition, exercise, etc.

You’re free from food, diet culture, and yourself.

That’s how we create results.

Do you see how logical that was?

Now, this isn’t a coaching push and your answer doesn’t need to be exactly like mine, but you need to be able to logically explain how you are going to get results.

If you can’t logically explain it, you’re not going to be able to take action.

It would be like expecting a child to run before learning to walk or crawl.

If you can’t explain it you won’t be able to execute it.

Here’s the really hard truth:

You only have so much of that in your system.

Not only is it hard on your metabolism—but every time you lose weight, gain it back, lose weight, and gain it back, you’re also ingraining it on a neurological level.

It’s like how if you practice guitar every day, you’ll get really good at playing guitar.

Here you're getting really good at gaining weight back, you're getting really good at struggling, you’re getting really good at never getting where you want to be.

For those of you who have been struggling for a long time, struggling kind of feels like home—and the thought of losing weight and keeping it off is kind of terrifying.

This is the hard thing about conditioning.

Even if you hate your life, can’t play with your kids, and are going to die early, your brain is like, “yeah, but it kind of feels like home.”

The idea of losing weight and keeping it off is scary—and that’s why you want to stay trapped.

The brain is all about self-preservation. It doesn’t care if you’re happy.

Again, if you can’t tell me how you logically will create results for yourself, you’re not going to.

That’s the hard truth.

Faster is Not Always Better:

This is another one I did an email on (and I encourage you guys to sign up for my email list if you aren’t on it. It’s not spammy—or just one big sales pitch—it’s an area where I put out higher-level content, and it’s great if you like to read versus watch or listen.)

Imagine you need to go to the grocery store.

For example, I live 12 minutes from Walmart.

If it takes me 12 minutes to get there going 30 MPH, imagine if I went 100 MPH. It’d be way faster, right?

In theory, maybe… but In reality, there is construction going on, there are traffic lights, and there are always school buses around.

So what would actually happen if I went 100 MPH to Walmart is I would get pulled over, I would get in a bunch of car accidents, and I would probably hit some kids or construction workers.

So, would it actually be faster? No, not in reality.

Faster always sounds better on paper, but that’s not always the case.

If you bake a cake and the directions say to bake it at 400 degrees for 40 minutes, you can’t double the heat to 800 degrees and cut the time in half.

You’d have a cake that is burnt on the outside and raw on the inside.

What’s the fastest way to bake a cake? Follow the recipe.

What’s the fastest way to get to the grocery store? Follow the rules of the road.

It’s the same here.

Most people will drop their calories a little and do a few workouts and see some results and think more is better, faster is better, more is faster.

You’re getting greedy with your results.

If you cut 100 calories, it makes sense on paper to cut 1000 calories—but it doesn’t work in reality.

You’re doubling the heat and dropping the time on the cake.

Faster is not always better.

Recap:

You’re a statistic—and the only way to not be a statistic is ruthless execution and action.

If you can’t logically explain to me how you’ll create results for yourself—you’re not going to.

Faster is not always better for weight loss—actually rarely is it better. Trying to speed things up is actually slowing you down. Follow the “rules of the road.” Slow, steady, and monotonous is the way to go.

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