5 Mental Shifts to Put Fat Loss on Autopilot | DFIO Ep.276
About Today’s Episode:
How dope would that be if you could just put your weight loss and you feeling better and looking better on autopilot?
Today we are talking about mental shifts you can make to do EXACTLY that.
What got me thinking about this content was the Never Struggle Losing Weight Ever Again Masterclass I put on.
Basically, the premise of it is: you're focusing on the wrong things.
For most people who are struggling with all of this stuff, what's stopping you from losing weight has nothing to do with calories, workouts, meals, carbs, a sustainable plan, or any of that—the problem is the inner game.
So today, we are going to talk about 5 mental shifts you need to make to put your fat loss on autopilot.
09:00 #1 Your Identity
21:17 #3 Daily Reflection
23:08 #4 Daily Inner Work
26:08 #5 The Plan Itself
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5 Mental Shifts to Put Fat Loss on Autopilot | DFIO Ep.276
0:00:00.0 Jared Hamilton: Your identity is the thermostat on your life, how Ed Mylett puts it. Your identity regulates your environment and your results to get back to its baseline. You can decide who you want to be at any point in time and adopt that identity, align all actions to congruence with that identity. And then before you know it you'll have a stack of irrefutable proof that you are who you say you are. And now you have a new identity. The cool thing is you can decide who you want to be right now.
0:00:27.1 Jared Hamilton: What's going on friends, I hope you are well, welcome back to a brand new episode of Dieting from the Inside Out. I am your host as always, Jared Hamilton, and I'm so stoked that you are here. I'm gonna be totally honest with you though, this is the second time recording this because I actually just finished recording this whole or finished filming this entire episode and then I looked at my screen and realised my mic was not on. I was like, fuck. Oh no. So the camera was on, so we got great video but the the camera was off, I'm sorry, but the mic was off. So we are refilming this entire bad boy so you guys don't just have to put up with the shitty audio from the camera. So we are refilming the entire thing. So hopefully this works out better than the first one.
0:01:12.8 Jared Hamilton: So I really appreciate you being here. Today's episode we are talking about mental shifts that put fat loss on autopilot. Like how dope would that be if you could just put your weight loss and watching the pounds come off and the inches drop and you feeling better and looking better on autopilot where you didn't have to think about it as much. That's what we're gonna get into because what got me thinking about this content specifically for this episode was last night at the time of filming this, last night I hosted my big Never Struggle Losing Weight Ever Again masterclass. And basically the premise of it is you're focusing on the wrong shit. Most people who are struggling with all of this stuff, what's stopping you from losing weight has nothing to do with calories, workouts, meals, carbs, any of that shit, even a more sustainable plan.
0:01:58.8 Jared Hamilton: And for most people isn't the problem. Like I have people who are on the most sustainable plans out there or I see people doing them. They'll do like my free programmes or whatever the case is but they're still struggling because the inner game issues have never been resolved and never been fixed so that's what the masterclass was on. So that's one of the things that I was talking about a lot was a lot of these inner game things is your autopilot, right? So that's what we're talking about today is how to put like these, I have what, five things on my list, five things that you need to do to make these mental shifts happen that's going to put your fat loss on autopilot, so that's what we're diving into today. Now, before we do, massive thank you to the sponsors of the show, sponsor number one is FlexPro.
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0:04:02.6 Jared Hamilton: They're called a supplement for a reason but they do have their time and their place. If you are missing certain marks with your actual food, 'cause let's be real, you're probably not eating enough fruits and vegetables. You're probably not getting enough micronutrients like vitamins and minerals. You're probably not getting enough protein and you're probably inflamed as fuck because you're not having enough omegas and things like that. So at the end of the day supplements absolutely have their time and their place but they're just not everything. So if there's these areas you're missing with food you should probably look into some of the supplement forms of that. I just wanna make sure you have a good spot to go to where you're actually getting products that are accurate, safe, and the effective dose. And they're actually made in a real place, not someone's basement because most people let's be real go to Amazon to find the least shittiest tasting or most tolerable and the cheapest.
0:04:49.9 Jared Hamilton: But the problem is that very rarely it gives you a great outcome. Like a lot of times this is when like protein shakes will upset your stomach or you'll get heartburn from this or your heart will flutter with that or whatever the case is. So I just wanna make sure that your money is getting you the value that you're promised. So that's why we work with 1st Phorm, definitely go check on the link below, there's a free shipping, set up with it, but otherwise let's get into the nuts and bolts of what you came to the show for. So let's talk about these mental shifts. So mental shifts that are putting your fat loss on autopilot. Number one, well, actually before we get into number one, I want you to think of it this way, let me give you an analogy here.
0:05:25.0 Jared Hamilton: I want you to picture a jet, like not just any jet, but I want you to picture like you're trying to go from where you're at to where you wanna be as fast as possible. Like you are trying to go from, let's just say you're here in Indiana with me and you're trying to get to let's say California, let's say San Diego. You're trying to get from here to there as fast as possible. So you buy the best jet, you get the best engines, the best turbines, you get the best pilot, you get the most aerodynamic wings, you get the best landing gear, you literally pimp this thing out so you can get from here to there as fast as humanly possible, but here's the one thing, your autopilot's off, your autopilot is set to put you in Hawaii.
0:06:13.1 Jared Hamilton: You're trying to get to San Diego, and you built this jet to get there as fast as possible, to get you from where you're at now to where you want to be, but your autopilot's off. Are all those things gonna help you get to San Diego faster? Of course not, the jet will go faster but it's taken you further away from your destination, isn't it? That's where most of you that are listening or watching if you're watching this on the YouTube are at because you are trying to soup up your jet. You're trying to get from where you're at now to where you want to be, lose the 30 pounds, feel better, look better, all that, but the problem is you're trying to do the best diet, the most workouts, burn the most amount of calories possible, eat the cleanest food, do all the things.
0:06:53.6 Jared Hamilton: But the problem is your autopilot is set on struggle, failure and gain weight and yo-yo diet. So then you wonder why you're doing all the things and it doesn't work. One of the questions that I asked on the masterclass last night is I asked everyone, like all the people that were on there, I said, how many of you guys feel like it's just something deeper holding you back? I go, you do all the things that the gurus and the Instagram pages say. You're counting your calories, you're watching your macros, you're doing your workouts, you're on a diet more than you're off a diet. You're literally always obsessed about weight loss. But then ironically either it doesn't work or it works for like this long and then you always gain the weight back, and then just like 70 comments come through like, yes, this is me.
0:07:33.3 Jared Hamilton: Oh my gosh, you're talking to me like, oh, that's my story of my life. It's because it is deeper. It's because your autopilot's fucked up. It's because that is what's off. We have to fix that autopilot. That's the biggest thing. Yeah, you can do the most even sustainable plan out there, to be real with you, inside my fat loss simplified Facebook group, if you're not in there you should be in there, a few months ago I just dropped in the most sustainable and chill three month programme I've ever made. It's called Project 90 and it's a 90-day programme that's so sustainable, it's almost too easy. But you know what happens? Most people never finished it. Most people make it to 14 days and then fall off. And it's the most... Like I know it 'cause I made it.
0:08:17.9 Jared Hamilton: It's the most sustainable plan, the easiest plan, the least amount of time ever involved. And it's so simple and sustainable that anyone could do it. Well, then why is it not everyone completed it? It is because their autopilot was set to fall off in 14 days. Their autopilot was to gain weight. Their autopilot was to yo-yo like every other time, to sabotage, to struggle, to binge eat, all these different things. So you could even have the most sustainable plan ever but if your internal autopilot is not fixed, you will struggle forever. That's the number one reason people come to coach with us is because we fix that internal autopilot first and it's our first priority, then we go into weight loss and so it sticks this time. So let's talk about how to fix this internal autopilot.
0:09:01.9 Jared Hamilton: Number one is your identity. Hear me when I say this. Your identity, to put simply what your identity is. It's who you think you are. The story that you play in your head over and over again. Your identity could be like that of like, let's say kind of what most people are thinking, your identity is you're the fat person. So then what happens every time you lose weight? You subconsciously find your way to gain your weight back. Your identity could be a dieter. Like I'm a dieter, I've been on a diet for most of my life. So then you lose the 30 pounds, one thing leads to another and now you don't need to diet anymore. But now your identity is a dieter so it's a threaten now. So now you find a way to gain the weight back to fulfill the identity of dieter.
0:09:42.7 Jared Hamilton: So now you can go back to dieting again. That's the problem. Let's say your identity's a binger or an emotional eater. It's just who you are. Well, what do you think's gonna happen when you go two or three weeks without binge eating or emotional eating? Something magically is gonna happen that's gonna bring you back to fulfilling the prophecy of your identity. Your identity is the thermostat on your life, how Ed Mylett puts it, that your identity regulates your environment and your results to get back to its baseline, right? In my house, my thermostat is usually at 69. Well, if my dog kicks the door open on a day like yesterday that was hot as fuck, well, my room temperature heated up to 80. Well, what's gonna happen is the thermostat kicks on and cools the room back off. So if your internal identity or your internal thermostat is set at to struggling, weight gain, yoyoing, overweight, sabotager, well, your environment's gonna heat up to like, when you start losing weight, doing better or being consistent, something's gonna happen to cool your results back off to where you're set at down here.
0:10:43.7 Jared Hamilton: That's why your identity is one of the biggest causes of your autopilot. It's literally where it's set at. So the problem is, most of you watching and listening to this have an identity that's either based in solely your struggles. And if your identity is made up of all the things that you don't like about yourself, like good luck fixing those 'cause you'll sabotage back to them, that's how psychology works. That's a problem but then so many of you guys have your identity caught up in just how you got here. So you just assume that's who you are, but don't leave your identity where it's at because somehow you ended up here. You can decide who you want to be at any point in time and adopt that identity. Align all actions to congruence with that identity. And then before you know it, you'll have a stack of irrefutable proof that you are who you say you are and now you have a new identity.
0:11:29.6 Jared Hamilton: But the cool thing is you can decide who you want to be right now, you have no responsibility to be the same person you were five minutes ago. That's the truth, it's hard 'cause guess what? The old identity doesn't go down easy. The old identity operates on a survival, right? The way your brain works is, with all of this stuff is it's number one goal is self preservation. Your brain doesn't care if you're happy. Your brain just wants to make sure that you don't die. So if you've lived your life with this old shitty identity, now you're coming in to go I wanna change my identity and my autopilot, your brain's gonna go, you're just now coming to do this? I've been operating here for like the past 10 years. Good fucking luck. I'm not gonna go down that easy.
0:12:10.2 Jared Hamilton: And that's what happens. But when you over time put this new identity in and the old identity goes down, now you're gonna, instead of sabotaging down to the old identity, your new identity is gonna pull you up. That's why this gets so important and why this is so crazy. So number one fix is your identity and who you think you are, 'cause again, most of you have an identity because someone else put it there when you were defenseless, when you didn't know any better, excuse me, you ever get one of those like tickles in your throat that like you just start hacking and coughing and then you can't talk for like five minutes? I can feel it right here. So... But that's what happens is with your identity, someone put this identity in you that wasn't yours.
0:13:03.2 Jared Hamilton: You struggled when you were a little kid so your mom called you a struggler or a worrier or oh, we're just overweight people, that's just who we are, oh, we're just dieters. Someone else put that identity in there. One of my favourite questions that I ask people, especially clients, when they say, oh, I'm a blank, I go, who taught you that? Who told you that? 'Cause you did not come out of the womb being blank, a dieter, an overweight person, a struggler. When someone says, oh, it's just who I am, I go, who taught you that? 'Cause it's not true. Oh, I'm dumb. Who taught you that? Who told you you're dumb? 'Cause it's not true. We have to be very careful about the identities we choose to take on because we literally play that role and then get what's in alignment with that role, and then that just becomes who we are. Excuse me. So be very, very careful. So that's why autopilot shift number one is you have to change your identity to something that serves you to the kind of person that you want to become. Because you don't just get, you have to become someone who gets.
0:14:01.4 Jared Hamilton: Here's... Excuse me, here's what I mean by that. One of my favourite authors, James Allen, says we don't get what we want, we get what we are, therefore to get more we have to become more. You can't stay with the same shitty version of yourself down here and get great results. You have to become a person who happens to get those results. So instead of saying how do I get, you have to start asking who do I have to become who gets? Imagine, like let's give it a different analogy. Imagine your kid gets shitty grades in school and they want to get good grades in school to make varsity or whatever, but they don't turn their homework in, they don't show up to class on time, they don't study, they're half asleep in their rooms, all this stuff, but your kid's like, oh shit, I need to get good grades if I want to get on the football team.
0:14:43.6 Jared Hamilton: So they shouldn't ask, how do I get good grades? They go, who do I have to become who gets good grades? Oh, I need to become someone who shows up on time. I need to become someone who is intentional with their homework, I need to become someone who turns in their homework. They have to become a good student. What do good students do or what do good students get? They get good grades. You can't be a shitty student and get good student results. You have to become a good student. What do good students get? Great results. So for you if you have shitty results it's because you have probably a shitty identity because your subconscious actions which are 90% of the time by the way are in alignment with your identity.
0:15:20.2 Jared Hamilton: So who do you have to become? Who gets what you, the thing that you want? So autopilot mental shift number one is, you have to fix your identity, who you think you are. Number two, your Reticular Activating System, your RAS for short. Essentially it's what you focus on. So you have this thing that sits in the back of your head called your Reticular Activating System, if you wanna see a picture of it, Google it, hit images. It looks like a little ping pong ball that sits down by your brainstem. So your RAS is your filter on life. It's crazy, to give you an idea of other areas your RAS kicks in, is whenever, like remember that car that you had that, say you drive like a white van and you'd see it everywhere, then you sold the white van and now you bought like a blue car. Now you see that car everywhere, that's your RAS kicking in. Or you could be at like a football game if you're a parent and people are yelling, screaming, all this stuff then all of a sudden your kid yells mom, and you're just like, that's my baby. And you're just like whoo! Because your brain picks up on it because it's important to you. It's these kind of things, that's your RAS. Well, in the world of weight loss your RAS is just gonna show you more of what you're hyper fixated on or what you're focusing on and going to hide the opposite of that. So for those of you who go I should be further ahead. Oh my gosh, I may have lost a little bit of weight but I still have like 80 more pounds to lose.
0:16:43.7 Jared Hamilton: Or how many of you that said, oh yeah, I guess I lost an inch or two, my clothes are fitting better but the scale hasn't moved. You're living in lack. You're living in that place of it's never good enough. So you're programming your RAS to only show you shit. It is only showing you how terrible things are and only gonna show you more of that story and it's gonna hide from you everything else. So if you're like, man, weight loss is hard. If that's what you're focusing on it's gonna show you all the reasons weight loss sucks and it's gonna hide every reason that it could be easy, that's the scary part. Or you could go, or you could have the belief that, no, Jared says weight loss is simple and easy and like, okay, I know it's out there.
0:17:25.7 Jared Hamilton: Your brain is gonna show you the simple and easy ways to lose weight and it's gonna hide the harder ones. That's the crazy part is you have evidence on both sides. If you say, oh, I'm not meant to lose weight, your RAS is gonna go, bet, I'll show you all the reasons you're not meant to do it and it'll hide all the other reasons. So if you live in the place of like, oh, I never see progress, or, oh, I haven't lost enough, I should have lost more by now, your brain's gonna go, you're right, I'm gonna show you how true that is, and it will hide all the wins from you. We see this with... We have to have this conversation with clients a lot. I had a client one time who she turned in her check and stuff and I looked at her pictures and I'm like, holy shit girl, you are looking like amazing.
0:18:06.9 Jared Hamilton: Your pictures are so different. And she goes, "Jared, I just don't see it. Can you point it out?" And I go, "I'd love to but I want you to do it first," because I knew if I could get her to find these, it's gonna do so much for her psychology than me just telling her. I said, "Okay, I will, but you have to go first," I said, "I want you to point out every single difference but here's the difference." I said, "I want you to just act like I'm gonna pay you $1000 per item." She's like, "Oh wow." I didn't actually pay her $1000 but I said, "I want you to look at these pictures with the intention of every difference I will pay you $1000."
0:18:40.0 Jared Hamilton: All of a sudden, she went from having none, zero wins, till she found 10 or 15, she's like, "Oh well, I have a double chin in that picture, not in that picture. Oh, my stomach is sticking out a lot here, now it's flat. Oh, I didn't have that line in my leg here, now I have it in this picture." So I'm like, "Woah, woah, woah. So wait, where were these 10 minutes ago?" The difference was, she looked with intention, she was trying to find them, because naturally we are cynical about our own progress or lack thereof with our own stuff, so we naturally default to negative, oh, it's not there, it's not good enough, when it's there, you just have to look for it. And then you know what happened, ironically, that next week I got a bunch of emails from her saying, "Jared, you wouldn't believe it, I'm fitting in these clothes I haven't worn in years." Or she was like, "Jared, I saw this, I was in the gym and I never had lines in my arm before, now I can see where my shoulder separation is at, the delt lines."
0:19:32.8 Jared Hamilton: You guys really think that's because that randomly showed up that week, or do you think it's because her hyper fixating on all her wins and how well she's doing and I finally got her to recognize them, now her brain just said, "Oh, that, I'm gonna show you more."? That's what happened. You have to understand your RAS is like a gun. It just knows how to go bang, like a gun has no morality, a good guy can shoot a bad guy or a bad guy can shoot a good guy, a gun doesn't care, a gun just goes bang, your RAS doesn't care what you pointed out, it just goes bang, if you say, "RAS, show me how terrible my situation is." It'll go bang, and then it shows you how terrible things are, or you go, "RAS, show me how great things are and how much I'm winning." It goes bang, and it shows you everything. But at all times, this is why, I swear I'm getting ahead of myself, this is why you'll have some people have an obstacle come and they'll go, "Oh, I can't do this now," and it will be legitimate as fuck, or you'll have people go, an obstacle come they go, "How can I find a way around this?"
0:20:34.1 Jared Hamilton: And there's another option legitimate as fuck, it's because your RAS just shows you what your focus is on, you find exactly what you look for, and your RAS shows you that. So this is why it's another auto-pilot thing, because if you're trying to find ways to make weight loss simple, easy, doable in all your wins, your RAS goes bang, I'll show you. But it also, if your intention is and thought is, weight loss is so hard, it's so overbearing, I don't have time, I don't have the money, I don't have the whatever. It's gonna go bang, I'll show you how you don't... It's the biggest game changer ever, it either opens your mind or closes it, but it's on those auto-pilot things. Next, number three, daily shift to put your fat loss on auto-pilot, number three is daily reflection.
0:21:25.4 Jared Hamilton: How did I do today? You cannot make these decisions and get your auto-pilot really, really skilled unless you have some reflection to see how well you did in course-correct. 'Cause you're not gonna go from sucking to auto-pilot effortless, that's just not how the game works, it's a skill set. It's like no one goes from binge eating to intuitive eating overnight, it's a process. And that's a higher level skill. So for you though, you have to be able to audit how these things are, how your identity is, how your RAS is, how your actions are, so every day you need to audit yourself and go, "Okay, how did I do today? How is my identity today? Oh, did I slip back into the old identity. How is my RAS today? What was I focusing on? What was I thinking about the majority of the day, was I focusing on how hard it is and how much of a victim I am, or was I thinking about how good I'm doing and how I'm unstoppable and how I can do all these things?" Or whatever the case is.
0:22:16.6 Jared Hamilton: You need to reflect daily on all of your stuff to go, "Hmm, how am I doing?" Because if you just go through this game like a buoy in the ocean, it will go wherever the ocean waves take it, which means you're not in control, but for you to get to the point where you're very skilled with this, you have to be able to reflect and think about what you think about and think about your actions and your identity and your focus and your intention, because then you can go, "Mm, I started to slide a little bit." And then course-correct. Think of it this way, like with our clients, we do check-ins every single week, it's because it's like a little reflection moment, it's one, yeah, holds the client accountable, but it also lets us see the data so we can make moves, educated decisions around what to do with our clients, but you can do this also, it's not the same as our checking, but you can do these little mini daily reflections with yourself like, "Hey, let me just check in, how did I do today." And be honest and then course-correct. So that's another big one to help with this. Number four, daily inner work. As in, you cannot overcome yourself if you can't be with yourself.
0:23:18.3 Jared Hamilton: Here's the thing, if you think about everything we've talked about with this auto-pilot stuff, it's all a you versus you thing. It's a relationship you have with yourself. It is you to you. Your identity, your reticular activating system, your ability to be with yourself and reflect and be honest with yourself, your self-awareness, your sabotaging mechanisms, your... All of this stuff. So what's stopping you really from getting to where you wanna be is you. So if you cannot sit with yourself, you will not be able to overcome yourself. Please hear me when I say that. How can you fix a relationship with a person if you refuse to spend any time or communicate with them? If you and your partner, husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, whatever are having a beef, how can you get through it while avoiding it and without even talking? You won't. It's why most relationships end because of lack of communication, but you don't communicate with yourself, you don't sit down with yourself, you don't do enough inner work, you don't meditate, you don't journal your emotions, you don't sit with your triggers and thoughts, if anything, most people avoid that stuff like the plague.
0:24:21.8 Jared Hamilton: So if you cannot sit with yourself and be with yourself, how do you overcome yourself when you are the foundation of everything, the result and the sabotage and struggle. So this is why part of putting your fat loss on auto-pilot is you have to get crazy self-aware and learn about yourself and be with yourself, this is why you should be journaling frequently, journal your emotions, journal how you're feeling, journal your thoughts, think about those things, so this is why you should be sitting with yourself. Sitting in silence is so powerful, getting clarity, letting in the crazy noise start to drop and be able to listen and spend time with yourself. Most of you will do anything but spend time with yourself, it blows me away how many people will do a Keto diet, do cross-fit 18 days a week and starve themselves and restrict and spend hundreds and thousands of dollars and supplements and do all this crazy shit, but then when I go, "Hey, I want you to meditate for five minutes and sit in silence."
0:25:10.6 Jared Hamilton: They're like, "Oh, I can't do it. My brain won't shut up." You don't think that's the problem? You don't think the fact that you've been avoiding that's the problem? You don't think the fact that you run from your emotions with food, with your kids, with your work, with cleaning your house, with busyness, with scrolling, you don't think that's the problem of why you can't get to where you wanna be? Because what's stopping you is you, like we said, it's your identity, your Reticular Activating System, your routines, your sabotaging, your emotions, your triggers, and then ironically though, you won't sit with yourself.
0:25:40.4 Jared Hamilton: We won't be with ourself. You don't think that's the problem? It is the problem. So part of putting this fat loss on auto-pilot and getting crazy self-aware is daily inner work. If you don't know how to do it, I'm pretty sure in this lineup of podcasts I have an episode on meditating and journaling. I know I have a really in-depth module in the academy, and we talk about this with coaching a lot, but I think I still have an intro to this in the podcast lineup. So check that out.
0:26:08.6 Jared Hamilton: And lastly, number five mental shift to put fat loss on auto-pilot is... Sorry if I'm looking at my notes and my left contact is fuzzy. The plan itself, as in, it needs to be minimalistic, sustainable and simple. Here's the thing, most of you can't put your fat loss on auto-pilot 'cause your plan is too crazy. I had a lady who signed up for coaching and she applied and signed up for coaching the other day, and one of her biggest issues was motivation. She's like, "I'm just never motivated." Goes crazy. And I agree, we should never rely on motivation, but I told her, I said, you know, after I heard the whole story, I go, "It's not your fault, 'cause you're trying to starve yourself, do a Keto diet and work out like crazy, like an hour and a half a day, that plan is incapable of being motivated with. Because it's too crazy, it's too overwhelming, it doesn't fit your lifestyle, it doesn't fit your day-to-day, of course you're not gonna be motivated because the plan isn't capable of it."
0:27:00.6 Jared Hamilton: It's the same thing with most of you watching or listening to this is, is the reason you can't put your fat loss on auto-pilot is because you're doing too much, you're listening to 18 different people, you're like, "Okay, I gotta get up and do this crazy weird morning routine, have this crazy weird power shot of all these different potions, pills and powders, and then I gotta go do this crazy workout plan. Do this, this, this and this, spend an hour and a half at the gym a day, then I gotta eat six times a day, but they've all gotta be like this, but then I've gotta schedule this, I gotta do this, and then I gotta have all these different supplements, and then after carb cycle and calorie cycle, but then I have to do in the fasting window, while eating vegan, make a Keto friendly."
0:27:32.8 Jared Hamilton: That's half the reason you're failing is because your plan is too much, it's too crazy, it's unsustainable, we have to make this minimalistic, simple and sustainable. That's how we do this. Now, again, you could have the best plan in the world, like a plan that I would put together for you or my team would put together for you, but if you don't fix your identity, your Reticular Activating System, have self-reflection and do daily inner work, you'll fail it all. It will sabotage itself, it's like the auto-pilot thing on the plane analogy, or the foundation on the house, if you don't have a foundation, the house will crumble, it's no different here. Your internal game is your foundation of your house or the auto-pilot on your jet, that's what this is about, but at the end of the day, with talking about putting all this on auto-pilot, if the plan itself is incapable and if it's just not doable and simple, it's not gonna work. If you look at the areas in your life you have on auto-pilot, it's simple, it's sustainable, it's predictable, it's minimalistic, like brushing your teeth. Actually, it's why brushing teeth is my favorite analogy for fat loss is because it's arguably what you've been most consistent ever with in your life, it never takes up any more mental bandwidth in the two minutes you're doing it, even then you're half asleep, and then it's a non-negotiable, and then no matter how your day does, you always do it.
0:28:52.8 Jared Hamilton: You never go, "Oh shit, I forgot. I'm gonna start off Monday." That's not how it works, and you plan on doing it till you die, so it's so chill and minimalistic and part of your routine and on auto-pilot completely. So instead of trying to force fat loss and all this, why don't we just make it on auto-pilot and make it just like brushing your teeth? For most of you weight loss is more like a root canal versus just brushing your teeth. So that's how to do it. So those are the five keys and the mental shifts you need to have to put your fat loss on auto-pilot, so a little bit of a recap. Number one is fix your identity, which is who you think you are. Number two is your Reticular Activating System or RAS. It's what you focus on. Your daily reflection as in, "How did I do?" This way you can course-correct. Number four, your daily inner work, because if you cannot sit with yourself, you cannot overcome yourself, and then number five, your plan itself, it has to be simple, sustainable and doable, that way it works with your life.
0:29:45.0 Jared Hamilton: So those are the five shifts mentally you need to make to put your fat loss on auto-pilot. Now, before you go, I do have a few different announcements, and some of them are a little bit different, so don't be so quick to click away, number one, thank you for being here, if you have not yet subscribed to the show, be sure and do it. Check out all the goodies I have in the description, like I have my free course, my free Facebook group, the YouTube, all of that stuff, but what I wanna talk to you about for a second is an update and then a cool opportunity. So update is, everyone... Because again, this is the Dieting From The Inside Out podcast, so a lot of you guys have gone through my academy, so for those that have my academy, that have invested in it and are going through it or have gone through it, by the time you guys listen to this, I will have dropped some brand new material in the academy for you.
0:30:35.2 Jared Hamilton: I'm actually gonna pull up that real quick so I can tell you what they are. So super exciting, I have literally brand new material in the academy for you right now. So some of the new modules, 'cause for those that don't know, my academy is my giant video course on strictly the inner game, all the things that we're talking about. It's like my podcast, but on steroids, and there's content inside the academy that isn't... It's not in my show at all. So the academy is specifically a tool box in an arsenal, like a vault of how to fix all these specific issues, like for example, like there's a module on how to fix your relationship with food, how to stop binging and how to stop emotionally eating, how to stop sabotaging, how to stop the knowing what to do but not doing it, how to be consistent, how to handle inner child as it applies to weight loss, all of these deeper issues that's actually what's holding you back.
0:31:25.8 Jared Hamilton: I give you the exact frameworks on how to fix all these, it's an amazing asset. So we have a lot of people who listen to the show that's gone through it, so I just dropped a bunch of new modules in it, so specifically though, the newest module is, I have one, being present in fat loss, this way it's gonna make things way easier and way simpler with decision-making. I just dropped in one, two, three, brand new mentality modules, the in spite of mentality, the power of better and finish the damn day, this way you can adopt these mentalities to make struggle just disappear.
0:32:00.2 Jared Hamilton: The next one I have dropped in is questions to ask yourself when you want to quit, that one's really powerful and will save so many people so much struggle. Another one of my favorite I just put in, mastering maintenance and the art of adding calories back, so basically how to go through that mentally without gaining much weight, and then lastly, one of my favorite modules, I put wind stacking and it's called wind stacking to make fat loss easier. That one alone is like a 30 or 35-minute module, but we got into that, then I also...
0:32:30.9 Jared Hamilton: I still have all the bonus basics in there, so after people go through it, I'll show you how to lose weight, keep it off, audit progress and all that, but I went ahead and also included in my momentum building challenge training series. So I created this product or this thing called the momentum building challenge, basically showing you exactly how to get momentum so you're unstoppable and get you off the ground, you wanna talk about plain analogies, most people don't even get off the ground, so I created a system that's proven called the momentum building challenge on how to get off the ground where you get so much momentum that you can't be stopped. So that's a six training series. So I walk you through all that, so I included that. So for those that have the academy because you already have it, these modules are just gonna pop up in your account by the time you're watching and listening to this, which is dope. Now, for everyone else who hasn't, I am going to give you a quick little offer, so I'm gonna give you a cool opportunity.
0:33:27.4 Jared Hamilton: So the actual MSRP... So basically, whenever I create the academy, I wanted to put so much value in it, it was like a no-brainer when people want to invest in it and get it to where it's a no-brainer... I mean, each one of these trainings where I would value each of them between $300-$500 a piece, so the whole academy has... The total value is a little around six grand, if I remember right. Now, I'm not gonna actually sell it for that, so after all the modules have currently been added to it, it's normal walking rate is $2500, 'cause I raised the rate because of all the new material in it. So the normal walking around rate of the academy is 2500 bucks, which I still think is a hell of a deal. Now, what I am going to offer my podcast listeners, just because you're from the show, just because you're coming from the show, I'm not blasting this everywhere, it's only talking about it here, I am going to give you a special offer where you can get it at the final opportunity to get it at basically for 997, so I'm going to give it to you at just $1000, so over half off, so I would normally sell it for $2500 and it could be yours for just one payment of 997, I will...
0:34:38.7 Jared Hamilton: Because of the podcast dropping and everyone listens to it at different times, I will put a special link where you can access that special rate only inside there. Otherwise that's the only spot you can go to to get it at this rate. Now, because a bunch of people have been already asking me, if for some reason you can't do the full 997, I do 100% offer payment plans. That's not a big deal at all. I would hate for money to be the one thing that's stopping you from getting the help that you need. So if you do need a payment plan, and want to see what that would look like, I want you to email, just email email@example.com, and what we'll do is we'll send you over payment plan options that way we can make this doable for you, 'cause I'm telling you, you deserve to never struggle ever again, and I have the utmost faith and confidence that this academy will do that for you, without a doubt in my mind. So that's what's on the table. I will leave all these links below for you, otherwise be sure to subscribe to the show. I love you and I will talk to you next time.
Your Autopilot Needs Fixing:
Picture this: You’re in Indiana, with me, and you’re trying to get to San Diego. So you buy a jet.
You get the best jet, the best engines, turbines, pilot, etc., but your autopilot is programmed to go to Hawaii.
So this jet that you built, it’s fast, but it isn’t going to get you where you want to be because it’s programmed to head in the wrong direction.
That’s where most of you guys are at with your fat loss.
You’re trying to do the best workouts, burn the most calories, eat the cleanest food, do all the things—but the problem is your autopilot is set on struggle, failure, and gain weight.
You wonder why you’re doing everything “right”—but it doesn’t work.
The problem is deeper.
You can do the most sustainable plan out there and it will not work if your autopilot is off track.
For example, in my Facebook community, I put out the most simple, sustainable plan—Project 90.
It’s so simple and sustainable that anyone could do it.
It’s only 90 days, but most people never finish it. They follow it for maybe 14 days and then they fall off.
Why doesn’t everyone complete it?
It’s because their autopilot is set to fall off, to struggle, to yo-yo, to sabotage.
You have to fix your internal autopilot first.
#1 Your Identity:
Put simply, your identity is who you think you are—it’s the story that you play over and over in your head.
If your identity is, “I’m the fat person,” then every time you go to lose weight, you’ll subconsciously find a way to gain the weight back.
Your identity could be, “I’m a dieter, I’ve always been on a diet.” So, when you go and lose 30 pounds, well now your identity is threatened because you don’t need to diet anymore—so you subconsciously go and gain the weight back.
If your identity is that you’re a “binger” or an emotional eater, what do you think will happen when you go 2-3 weeks without binging?
You will always come back to fulfilling the prophecy of your identity.
As Ed Mylett puts it, your identity is like a thermostat.
In my house, my thermostat is set to 69 degrees, so if it's hot outside and my dog kicks the door open and the house starts to warm up, well, the thermostat kicks on and brings it back down to baseline.
If you are set to struggle, yo-yo, gain weight, sabotage, etc., when you start to lose weight and be consistent, something is going to happen to cool your results off and bring you back to your baseline.
That’s why your identity is one of the biggest causes of your autopilot being off track.
You don’t have to leave your identity where it’s at just because you ended up here.
You can decide who you want to be at any point in time—adopt that identity, align all actions to congruence with that identity, and then before you know it, you will have a stack of irrefutable proof that you are who you say you are and now you have a new identity.
You have no responsibility to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago—you can decide your new identity right now—but it’s not going to be easy.
Your brain seeks self-preservation, so if you have been living with this old, shitty identity, your brain will try to resist change, but slowly, over time, your new identity will start to lift you up.
You have to change your identity.
Also, realize that most of you have identities that you didn’t choose, your parents could have called you a “worrier,” or said, “Oh, we’re just overweight people.”
Someone else put that identity there. You have to be careful about the identity you choose to take on.
You can’t keep your old identity and get the results you’re looking for. You have to become a person who happens to get those results. So instead of asking, “How do I get X,” you have to start asking, “Who do I have to become?”
#2 Your Reticular Activating System:
Your reticular activating system (RAS) is essentially what you focus on.
You have this thing that sits in the back of your head called your reticular activating system—it is your filter on life.
An example of your RAS at work is if you buy a new car and all of a sudden you see that car everywhere, or you hear your child’s voice in a sea of other voices. Your brain picks up on it because it's important to you.
In weight loss, your RAS is going to show you more of the things you're hyper-fixated on.
If you always focus on how much more you have to lose—or that the scale hasn’t moved—if you’re living in a place of lack, your RAS is going to show you more of that story and it’s going to hide everything else from you.
So, if you're focused on “weight loss is hard,” it's going to show you all the reasons weight loss sucks and is going to hide every reason it could be easy.
The crazy part is that if you believe that weight loss is simple and easy, your RAS is going to show you all the ways weight loss is simple and easy—and it’s going to hide all the reasons it’s hard.
If you believe, “I’m not meant to lose weight,” your RAS will show you all the reasons you aren’t meant to lose weight. It will hide all your wins.
Your RAS is like a gun—it just goes bang.
A gun has no morality.
A good guy can shoot a bad guy or a bad guy can shoot a good guy.
The gun doesn’t care.
If you tell your RAS, “Show me all the reasons my life is terrible,” it will go, “BANG—here are all the reasons your life sucks.”
The other side of that is if you go, “RAS show me how great things are and how I’m winning,” it will show you everything you’re winning at in life.
Your RAS just shows you what you’re focused on.
It’s the biggest game-changer ever. It either opens your mind or closes it.
#3 Daily Reflection:
Daily reflection, “How did I do today?”
You can’t get your autopilot to be really skilled without some reflection and course correcting.
You don’t go from sucking to autopilot effortlessly. This is a skillset, it’s a process.
Audit how these things are, how your identity is, how you're RAS is, and how your actions are. Did you slip into the old identity today? Were you focusing on how great you're doing or were you focusing on what’s stopping you?
You need to reflect daily—assess where your thoughts and intentions are at and then course-correct.
#4 Daily Inner Work:
You cannot overcome yourself if you can’t be with yourself.
All of this autopilot stuff is you to you. It's all about your relationship with yourself, your identity, your reticular activating system, and your ability to be with yourself and reflect and be honest with yourself.
The thing that’s really stopping you from getting where you want to be is you.
If you cannot sit with yourself, you will not be able to overcome yourself.
Putting your fat loss on autopilot means getting to know yourself and becoming really self-aware.
You need to journal how you’re feeling, your thoughts, and sit with yourself in silence.
So many people will do anything but spend time with themselves. It blows me away. People will do all this crazy, extreme shit, but if I ask them to sit and meditate for 5 minutes they say, “Oh, I can’t do that.”
That’s part of the problem.
You have to be able to sit with yourself and get crazy self-aware.
#5 The Plan Itself:
Your plan needs to be minimalistic, sustainable, and simple.
Most of you can’t put your fat loss on autopilot because your plan is just too crazy.
If your plan doesn’t fit your lifestyle—your day-to-day—you're not going to be motivated because you aren’t capable of accomplishing it.
Most of you are trying to do too much.
You’re trying to work out for an hour and a half every day, take all these supplements, carb cycle, calorie cycle, fast, make it vegan, and keto friendly.
It’s too much.
Make your plan minimalistic, simple, and sustainable. It has to fit your lifestyle.
Think about the areas of your life that you do have on autopilot—they’re simple and sustainable.
Remember, you can have the best plan in the world, but if you don’t do the other 4 things on this list, you will sabotage yourself.
The five mental shifts you need to have to put your fat loss on autopilot:
#1 Your Identity — Who you think you are.
#2 Your Reticular Activating System — What you focus on
#3 Daily Reflection & Course Correction
#4 Daily Inner Work — If you cannot sit with yourself, you cannot overcome yourself.
#5 The Plan Itself — Make it simple and sustainable
Lastly, for those of you guys who have gone through—or are going through—my Academy, I have dropped some brand new material.
For those of you who do not know, my Academy is my giant video course on strictly the inner game.
The newest modules include:
Being Present In Fat Loss
3 new mentality modules:
In Spite of Mentality
The Power of Better
Finish the Damn Day
Questions to Ask Yourself When You Want to Quit
Mastering the Art of Maintenance and Adding Calories Back
Win Stacking to Make Fat Loss Easier
Also included is my Momentum Building Challenge, which is a series of 6 trainings to help you build momentum and get off the ground.
For those of you who already have the Academy, you’ll see those pop up.
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