What My Trip to the Dentist Taught Me About Fat Loss (Pay Now or Pay Later) | DFIO 267
About Today’s Episode:
Welcome back! This week I have a solo episode for you guys.
This episode is going to be a little different, but I have a story about my experience at the dentist and what it taught me about fat loss.
I think you’re going to get a LOT out of this one.
Let’s get into it!
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What My Trip to the Dentist Taught Me About Fat Loss | DFIO Ep.267
0:00:00.0 Jared Hamilton: For most people, trying to go about this weight loss game on their own, it's a noose you're hanging yourself with because the hard part is—it's like always trying to do this on your own but always never getting anywhere. It's like this proverbial treadmill, you trying to make it happen and figure it out on your own, you feel like you're doing something, but you're not going anywhere. If you think it's crazy that I went a decade without going to the dentist, I would ask you the same thing: isn't it kind of crazy that you're still trying to go through your shit by yourself?
0:00:27.4 Jared Hamilton: What's going on, friends? Welcome back to a brand new episode of Dieting From the Inside Out. If you're new around here, what's up? Welcome to the show. I'm Jared Hamilton. I am your host of the day and every day, and I'm really grateful that you're here, so I appreciate that. Now, today's episode is a little bit different. It's a solo episode. It's probably gonna be a little bit shorter than normal, but I had something that happened this past week and I wanted to tell a little story about it and show you how important and how big of a deal this can be for you and then we'll get into the episode. So basically what happened is this past week I went to the dentist for the first time in over a decade, and there's a specific message it taught me about fat loss that I think you're gonna find really, really powerful.
0:01:10.7 Jared Hamilton: So you wanna talk about an open loop, because now I'm gonna press pause and give a thank you to the sponsors of the show then we'll get into the nuts and bolts. Now, before we get into all that, be sure you're subscribed to the show so you don't miss out on an episode, we're dropping episodes like every single week. But before we get into all that, huge thank you to the sponsors of the show. Sponsor number one is FlexPro Meals because they keep me fed [chuckle] It's one of those things actually where I'm expecting an order to come today. But here's the thing, here's the big thing why FlexPro is such a big deal on top of them tasting amazing. But if what you're doing as far as your planning and your nutrition isn't convenient, you're likely not going to be as successful with it.
0:01:52.3 Jared Hamilton: I'm not saying everyone needs to go have meals shipped to their house or whatever, but for most people, they're already doing some semblance of this in other areas like fast food or gas stations or whatever, but it's not as convenient, it's costing you physically more money and then it's not as beneficial for your goals. Here's the truth, most people, I'm assuming we're probably kind of alike, your schedule is a little bit uncontrolled or there's uncertainty around it. Things come up. You probably hit drive-throughs when things are crazy, you're out and about with kids and life and doing things. So it's like, ah, fuck it, I'll just go through Wendy's or whatever the case is. So then you end up spending more amount of time doing that, eating food that isn't quite as accurate with calories and stuff, so it's making it harder to achieve your goals and you're spending a shit ton of money at the drive-through or gas stations or whatever.
0:02:36.0 Jared Hamilton: FlexPro fixes all of this because the thing is they ship all these meals straight to your house. They call themselves the Amazon Prime of meals. But here's the thing, it's cheaper than what you're already paying at fast food or if you pop into a gas station. My wife and I, where'd we go the other day? We stopped into like a... I can't remember what restaurant, it was just like a fast food joint for something. And I wanna say like the two of us was like $35 or something like that, $30, which to me is just crazy. So, but I can tell you right now, FlexPro, especially after my discount, you're spending so much less than that and it's saving you so much time because your time is really valuable and it just streamlines so much of your life for you. So if that's kind of up your alley and you would like to save more money, save more time, have way easier to get to your fat loss goals and not even have to think about your nutrition, definitely check them out. Either hit the link below or go to flexpromeals.com. Now, if you use my code, HamiltonTrained, it will save you an additional 20% at checkout, which is pretty cool.
0:03:37.9 Jared Hamilton: Then we have our second sponsor of the show, which is 1st Phorm, sorry, I saw a message pop up. It's 1st Phorm. Fun fact, I'm actually at the time of recording this, I'm going to be going out to 1st Phorm's HQ. I think next month it's, or this month or next month I'm gonna check my calendar. It's their big Summer Smash event, so I'm gonna be going to that. But here's the thing, supplements are not the end all be all. I'll be the first one to tell you that. They'll be the first ones to tell you that. But at the end of the day, supplements do have their time and their place because more than likely, you are not getting everything you need from food. If you are, that's dope. If you're getting enough protein, your inflammation's down, your joints don't hurt, you're getting like the five servings of fruits and vegetables every day, if you're doing all the things, great. Most of you aren't. And the problem is most people are approaching supplements the wrong way. They're getting either sold basically snake oil or they're popping on Amazon finding the cheapest, least shitty tasting thing ever, then they wonder why though it hurts their stomach or it makes them bloated or it's not as effective because the ingredients are shit or whatever the case is.
0:04:38.7 Jared Hamilton: So my thing is, I know 1st Phorm is one of those companies you can trust. They have all the extra third party testing that they don't have to have. There's an actual HQ, it's not someone's basement. And you just know exactly what you're getting. You're getting quality. So that's something I wanna make sure that you know about. So if that's kind of up your alley and you think it would help, definitely go check them out at the link in the description. And if you're not quite sure on where to go with supplements and stuff, I do have a supplement video that'll kind of help with that. So definitely check that out or shoot me a message, I'll be glad to help.
0:05:10.6 Jared Hamilton: But yeah, time to get into the embarrassing story. So, long story short, like I mentioned a minute ago is I went to the dentist for the first time in over a decade. If we're being really specific, 12 years, more than I think 12 years, which is really fucked up because when people look at like how long I've been coaching people, like I've been doing the coaching thing, it's like, oh my gosh, over a decade, that's crazy. That's a lot of credibility. But then at the same time, it's like, I haven't been to the dentist in 10 years. Well, that's gross. We'll just keep the camera not zoomed in on my mouth. But here's the thing, I wanna show you the lesson I learned and why it applies to fat loss so much.
0:05:49.6 Jared Hamilton: So I actually have notes for... Because actually, what's funny is I made this in the big Instagram post the other day and it went over really well and a lot of people said, "Wow, that really hit home." So I think it's important to talk about it here. Usually if something does well on like a social media post, I like to talk about it here on the podcast where I can go a lot deeper with it and stuff like that. So but yeah, so with going to the dentist stuff, we'll just say this. There is a lot of work that has to be done with my mouth. It's not completely horrendous, but I haven't had a big deep cleaning. They had to get under my gums and part of the procedure is they're doing this periodontal thing where they're like going under my gums with this super blaster and it hurts and it's cleaning it and all this stuff.
0:06:33.1 Jared Hamilton: And so far, at the time I'm recording this, I only have this side of my mouth having had it done, the right side of my mouth. So this side of my mouth feels like Target, like the store and this side feels like Goodwill. [chuckle] So, it's a really weird dynamic right now. I can't wait till this is all over, but I'll send you my itemized receipt. There's a lot of work that has to be done. And to be real with you, I am kicking myself for not getting this taken care of back in the day when I knew I should have. There's a million reasons I could blame to not doing this. I forgot or I wasn't doing well from a business standpoint 10 years ago. So like I was broke and I couldn't afford it and oh my gosh, it's expensive and I don't have time and, oh, I'll put it... Whatever, the same excuses we all give. Let me think about it. Oh, that's a lot of money, whatever. But here's the thing, but because I've been putting it off and ignoring it and making excuses, I am paying for it now in several different ways.
0:07:34.0 Jared Hamilton: I'm paying for it, number one, in the health of my teeth, like my teeth, enamel is lower than normal. There's a shit ton of cavities. There's plaque in... There's buildup and there's damage done to my mouth because I didn't do what I knew I should have done a decade ago. I'm paying for it in this long-ass procedure because I have like this, you should see this bill and this fucking blueprint of all the shit they're having to do in like stage one, this, stage two, this, stage three, this. It's a lot, like way more invasive work than I would've had to have done if I got this, my shit together when I should have a decade ago. I'm paying for it in pain because like physical pain because guess what? Cavities hurt because guess what? When they're putting a fucking sandblaster in your mouth to get the tartar off or the buildup off or the plaque off and like filling cavities and all this stuff, that shit hurts. So I'm paying for it in pain and then lastly, I'm paying for it in my actual dollars.
0:08:35.2 Jared Hamilton: I'm paying for it financially. Yeah, back then it was... If someone would've told me, "yeah, pay me now or pay me later," or is like, "Jared, you can either pay a little bit now and like just come every six months like a normal person or you can pay it by the thousands here in 10 years," I would absolutely have gone, okay, I'm gonna make this happen. But now that's the thing is I'm paying for it financially. Trust me, you don't wanna see the bill I have. It's ridiculous. So here's why this matters for you, though, listening to this. Most people laugh when they hear about my dentist story and they're like, "Oh, that's fucking gross," or they think it's funny and it kind of is but a lot of people will listen to this and they're like, "Holy shit, how could you have done that?" But I would argue how most people listening to this are in the same boat with your weight loss. You've been struggling for the last decade. Think about it, if you think it's crazy that I haven't gone to the dentist in the last decade, but a lot of people listening to this have been struggling with their weight loss and not getting help over the last decade.
0:09:35.9 Jared Hamilton: You're convinced to do this on your own like I was convinced just to brush my teeth on my own. You know what I mean? So it's kind of weird how that can get turned on its head a little bit because you're not getting help with the weight loss goals is costing you, I'll be honest with you, much more than what my dentist is costing me. If you were to lay out an itemized receipt, it's costing you so much more than what me putting my dentist off for a decade. But you may be listening to this going, "how could you have put that off for so long? And that's gross or that's crazy. I can't even fathom." But you've been putting off getting the help that you need forever. This is the problem with... For most people, trying to go about this weight loss game on their own, it's a noose you're hanging yourself with because the hard part is, it's like always trying to do this on your own but always never getting anywhere.
0:10:23.2 Jared Hamilton: It's such a dangerous road because it's like this proverbial treadmill. You trying to make it happen and figure it out on your own, it's like a treadmill. You feel like you're doing something but you're not going anywhere but it makes you feel like you're going somewhere. This is when I talked to the same people a decade later. I'll be real. I remember names and faces from... I've been doing this for a long time and it breaks my heart when I see the same people in my DMs for years, in my groups for years wanting me to resend them the course that I had for free that was out five years ago because they're still struggling.
0:10:56.0 Jared Hamilton: If you think it's crazy that I went a decade without going to the dentist and it's like, "Yeah, no shit Jared, you're paying for it now," I would ask you the same thing. Isn't it kind of crazy that you're still trying to go through your shit by yourself? 'Cause here's the thing, it's costing you way more than what my dentist... Me not going to the dentist is costing me. I can tell you it's costing you your quality of life. I talk to a lot of people that avoiding social situations, avoiding going out to dinners, avoiding going on vacations, avoiding going to theme parks, wanting to have sex with the lights off, your mental health, your confidence in yourself, then all the shit that costs you, it's costing you your quality of life. It's costing you your happiness. When you hate the way you feel, you hate the way you look.
0:11:37.1 Jared Hamilton: I'm not saying you'll be happy when you lose the weight. That's not what I'm saying but this constant struggle and this constant battle, this constant of failure, this constant of getting hopeless where it's like, "Fuck, will I ever make it?" It's costing you your happiness, okay? It's costing you your time with your family and friends. 'Cause guess what? We only have so many instances left, but how many times, because you're struggling with this, you're like, "I won't go out to dinner tonight," or, "I don't wanna go on that vacation," or, "Oh, we're at the beach. I'll stay in, I'll come out, I wanna do some reading, then I'll come out later," and you don't because you're not comfortable in a swimsuit or you're spending more time focusing on your weight loss and how tight your clothes are in food than you are about being present in the moment.
0:12:20.9 Jared Hamilton: A lot of you, it's costing quite literally years off your life. I was just speaking to a lady the other day where she said, if she doesn't get her shit together, she's probably going to go into organ failure this year. It's fucking crazy. So many of you guys that don't understand, if you can see what is going to happen in the future, let's just, like if someone back 10 years ago came and said, "Hey Jared, here's what's gonna happen if you don't get your shit together. You're gonna have this huge ass of bill 10 years from now. You're gonna have all this build up, all these cavities. You're gonna be making this weird ass podcast talking about it, [chuckle] whatever." What would you do if you remember Scrooge, the movie with Mr. Scrooge where like the ghost of Christmas yet to come, comes in and says, "Hey, if you don't quit being an asshole, this is what your life is gonna look like." And he went, "Oh my gosh," and changed his life. What if that happened to you?
0:13:11.8 Jared Hamilton: What if someone says, "Yo, if you don't get your shit together now and get help from someone, you're gonna be struggling for another decade. You're not gonna be able to play with your grandkids. You're not gonna be able to go on this event, you're not gonna go to this retreat. You're not gonna be able to... You're gonna die early. Your organs are gonna have issues. You're gonna be on medication, you're gonna have to have the surgery." Guys, I've seen back when I was a personal trainer in person, I had a client die on me, not like on me, but he wouldn't take training seriously and his plans seriously, and so he fell off and five years later, he died because he was on an organ transplant list because his kidneys were going out. But because he was so overweight, he had to qualify for it and he never took it seriously and he never got the kidney transplant. And guess what? He died.
0:13:53.7 Jared Hamilton: But I bet he didn't... At the time, he didn't take it seriously because he didn't know how soon he would die. It makes you wonder like what if someone came in and told him, "Hey bro, you're gonna die in like five years if you don't get this shit together." The same thing is on the table for you, for a lot of you. It's costing you your mental health and mental bandwidth. I'm telling you, I was just speaking with a lady today and I could just feel how tired she was from... She said she's been trying to lose weight since she was 11 and she's just in her 20s, but still, it's still like a decade. And I could just feel how tired she was of like she described trying to lose weight, like walking over field of landmines. So scared to step on one and then you find when you have to like disassemble it before it blows up on you.
0:14:40.7 Jared Hamilton: And I could just feel how mentally exhausted she was, but I know if she's feeling that, you are probably feeling that too. It's costing you that. And then all of a sudden you're taking that version of you that has no mental bandwidth and your mental health that's in the toilet to your marriage, to your relationships, to your friendships, to your work, and then you wonder why things aren't working out. It's costing you the ability to be present with the ones you love the most. Think about it. Remember back in like DriversEd, they talk about when they gave you the spiel on texting and driving, you only have a hundred percent focus. So if you're 50% on your phone, that's only 50% you have on the road, it's no different with this. If your ability to be... If you only have a hundred percent ability in focus, but if half of your bandwidth is on how your clothes are fitting, how the this meal is gonna set you back, oh, how to eat this calories as macros that, oh, freaking out this weight gain that... You don't have very much presence at all to be with your family and friends and the ones that you love.
0:15:36.1 Jared Hamilton: So I promise you, it may sound crazy that I went a decade without going to the dentist and you're like, "Holy shit, but you going years without getting help with your shit is costing you," I'll be honest, a hell of a lot more. And then I would argue financially, it's going to cost you way more because it's one of those things where it's like, pay me an hour, pay me later because so many... I was just talking with someone the other day, just the amount of everything from the amount of money this guy was spending on food because of binges or because of programs that are back and forth and these quick fixes and all this stuff and/or medical bills or medications or you not getting your shit together so your kids are following your footsteps and now you have to pay for that and their medical bills and all this stuff, I promise you, you are going to end up paying more financially for not getting your shit together.
0:16:27.4 Jared Hamilton: I may sound like an asshole and that's not my intention. My goal here is to just have a real talk moment with you that hopefully will change the course of your life. Because here's the thing, this may offend some of you and that's fine. I'm not here to make you feel good. I'm here to change your fucking life and I'm one of the few people that are here that are going to tell you what you need to hear. That's my role as a coach is to have the uncomfortable conversations that not very many people will have with you. So that's what we're doing here. Because like I said, it breaks my heart when I see the same people year after year, month after month struggling. Like I said, I've seen the same people. Right now at the time of recording this, I'm running a scholarship giving away an entire... A big whole coaching package for free because we just brought on a new team member, but I've seen the same people apply that have applied for all the other ones I've done. It's like, what if we got this fixed a year and a half ago, right? I see the same people in my DMs.
0:17:29.1 Jared Hamilton: Now again, if that's you, don't... I love it that you message me. I love that you're trying, but maybe you trying it on your own isn't the best way to do it just like me trying to brush my... Just be good with my oral health, just brushing and flossing on my own. Fun fact, I wasn't flossing. [chuckle] So here's my thing. If this is a wake up call for you and you're like, holy shit, and if you're ready to get help, you can absolutely schedule a call and we can talk about what it would look like in the possibility of coaching to get you on the other side of this and see if things are a good fit and we can go over details, but because you're a listener of the podcast, there is a link in the description. That way, you can go straight to the calendar. You don't have to go through quite as much of a process as everyone else.
0:18:18.0 Jared Hamilton: So I'll leave that link in the description, but whenever I posted this story on Instagram, it was a wake up call for a lot of people. And now thankfully, quite a few people are getting help and they're like, "Holy shit, that was an eye-opener." And they applied for coaching. Some of 'em got and got accepted and then they're already in the route of changing their life. So I'm hoping the right people this resonates with. If it doesn't resonate with you, that's fine, but I know there's some of you that are like, "Holy shit, that makes a lot of sense." So I'm here to tell you that it may sound crazy, me going that long without getting my shit together, it may sound crazy, it may sound gross, it may sound just absurd and I would agree with you. But it is arguably even more absurd you going year after year after year when you have nothing but a history of this not working, you doing nothing but gaining your weight back. Because here's the truth, I don't know if you guys didn't listen to... I had the episode where I interviewed the Mind Pump boys, Sal, how do you pronounce his last name? Di Stefano said this—and Sal is labeled as "the wisest man in the industry."
0:19:20.9 Jared Hamilton: One thing Sal said that really hit home with a lot of people is, he said, "You only have so many failures in the tank." And I thought that was really powerful. And he means psychologically because psychology teaches us that our mind craves what's most familiar. And it's one of those things where you only have so many failures in the tank because you going years and years of gain, lose, gain, lose, gain, lose or do well for a while, ruin it all, do well for a while, ruin it all, eventually, most people will relent and they go, "I'm done trying." Your nervous system is not wired to continuously fail and most people will totally relent. I cannot tell you how many conversations I've had with people who end up signing up for coaching and they say, "This is my last hope." The beautiful thing is it's over from there and we've changed their lives and completely 180'd everything, which is really powerful and makes my heart really happy.
0:20:12.5 Jared Hamilton: But I'm telling you, don't be so quick to keep doing it on your own. You know what's funny is I've been hesitant to make a post on this. There's a post I wanna make that your ego is keeping you fat. And I know it's gonna get a lot of backlash and I haven't made it yet for that reason. But a lot of people are so hesitant. I talk with people all the time and they're so hesitant asking for help because they say, "Oh, I wanna be able to figure it out on my own." That's ego. Imagine if your kid is struggling in math and they need a tutor, they need a tutor, but they're like, "No, I've gotta figure it out on my own." That's absurd. That doesn't make any sense. There's nothing wrong with asking for help. If anything, I view asking for help, getting a tutor, getting the help that you need, hiring a mentor as a massive sign of you're a much more mature person, that shows how secure you are in your own... Everything in your own life to be willing to ask for help.
0:21:03.7 Jared Hamilton: I don't know about you, but we only have like 75-ish years on this planet. That is not enough... That is not very long and most people listening to this have spent massive chunks of that overwhelmed with this, trying to figure this out. It breaks my heart to see how many people have wasted years of their life being so obsessed with this. And then they get into coaching and it's like six months, boom, turned around completely. Every single person goes through our coaching. Most people that will go, "I wish I would've started this sooner. I wish I would've... If I knew it was as simple, I wish I wouldn't have wasted years or sometimes decades or sometimes multiple decades of my life." So if that's you and you are ready for the change, I know this sound... This is a pretty big pitch if you want to call it that. Don't get me wrong. If you don't resonate with this or you're not ready, that's fine. I'm good. The thing is, I'm one to always ask for help. I'm like one of the easiest persons to ever hire a mentor and apply for a coaching program of some sort because I'm in a stage of buying my time back. If I can hire someone and they can teach me and to do something in one year that it would've taken me 10 to figure out, guys, my current mentor, literally what he's taught me, and that would've taken me probably a decade to do on my own, I got it done in one year. I literally bought nine years of my life back.
0:22:24.6 Jared Hamilton: It's crazy when you start thinking of it like that. Small minded people look at things like, "Oh, no, what's this costing me right now?" And it's like, bro, look at your whole life. What is it, getting you back? What's that investment doing for you? That's the way that I view things. So that may not be your cup of tea, but I'm telling you, maybe your modality of thinking is actually what's keeping you stuck. Just some food for thought. So if that's you, definitely you can literally get on our call schedule at the link below and we can see if coaching is even a good fit. And if it is, then we'll go over options and discuss details and all that stuff. But otherwise, I hope nonetheless this, whether you take me up on that or not I hope this was a wake up call for you.
0:23:04.6 Jared Hamilton: I know this kind of started, it's like, "aha, funny Jared." "I can't believe Jared went that long." It's like, "oh, that table turned. I have been struggling and not getting help for the same amount of time." So who knows? Maybe this won't even go over that well, I don't know. I just felt like this is a really good thing to talk about because I just felt it in my heart that I should talk about this and use my embarrassment and my story with my fucking mouth and my dentist stuff as hopefully a gateway to maybe open and change some of your perspective and hopefully change your life forever. So that is it for the episode. I appreciate you being here. I know this is a little bit shorter than normal. A few other links below, definitely you'll want to check out, A) my Fat Loss Simplified Facebook group. It's the home base that everyone needs.
0:23:45.1 Jared Hamilton: If you do not have anywhere to go and you're alone and you feel you have questions and you're not sure what to do and you feel like you can't get this right and no one in your life gets it, your husband doesn't get it, your kids don't get it, your friends make fun of you, you need a home base, you need somewhere where you can go to get loved on, to get support and get around the right kind of people because when you're around the right kind of people, you unconsciously make better decisions. The law of association, we see it with kids, it's no different when you're an adult. So it's free. It's called Fat Loss Simplified. Go join it. It's in the link in my bio, it's on Facebook.
0:24:15.2 Jared Hamilton: If you're newer to this stuff and you're like, I don't even know where to get started, I don't even know where to start with calories or workouts or how to lose weight the right way, I've been doing this forever, one, you should apply for coaching, but if that's not a thing, you should go through my free course. It's a five day mini course, it's via email. It'll explain everything and make it super simple. Be sure to subscribe to the show. I'm trying to go through all the other stuff in my head. Be sure to subscribe to the show. We're everywhere, but be sure to check out the podcast site dietingfromtheinsideout.com and we have all the episodes blogged as well. So if you'd rather read or skim versus watch and listen, do that, but with the videos also on YouTube. So that's always there.
0:24:52.0 Jared Hamilton: What else? I feel like I'm missing something. I know it'll come to me as soon as we shut this off. Oh I forgot, I'm gonna be announcing some of the winners here soon, but I am doing a review contest so I'm bringing 1st Phorm back into the conversation if I'm... Basically, if you go, leave me a five star review. Wherever you listen to your podcast at, leave a five star review and give me a testimonial about the podcast and how much it's helped and changed your life, I am picking a winner per episode to receive a 1st Phorm supplement of their choice. So all you have to do is go leave me a five star review, tell me what you love most about the show. Screenshot it, email it to me, firstname.lastname@example.org. And every week I will be picking a winner and you'll get a 1st Phorm supplement on me and I'll let you pick whatever you want. So that is it, my friends. I love the fuck out of you. I appreciate you. We'll talk to you next time.
An Embarrassing Story, An Important Lesson, & How It Can Be Applied to Fat Loss:
As I mentioned in the intro, this is a story about my trip to the dentist—a trip to the dentist that taught me a valuable lesson that also applies to fat loss.
I’ve been a coach for over a decade. When people hear that they think, “Wow, that’s a lot of credibility.”
Now, you know what else has been over a decade?
My last dentist appointment.
That's right, I haven’t been to the dentist in over a decade—12 years to be exact.
I know, it’s gross.
And here’s what’s going on with the dentist… There is a lot of work that has to be done.
It’s not completely horrendous, but I haven’t had a deep cleaning in a while. They’re doing this periodontal stuff where they are going under my gums with this blaster to clean—and it hurts.
Right now, I have only had one side of my mouth done, so the one half feels clean and the other half doesn’t. It’s a really weird dynamic and I can’t wait until this is all over.
To be real with you guys, I am kicking myself for not getting this stuff done back in the day when I should have.
There are a lot of things I could blame or excuses I could make… “I forgot,” “I was broke a decade ago,” “Oh, I don’t have time,” “That’s a lot of money…”
The same excuses we all give.
Here’s the thing, though—because I have been putting it off and ignoring it and making excuses, I am paying for it now, in several ways.
I am paying for it in the health of my teeth. There is plaque and buildup, cavities, enamel is lower than normal, and there is damage done to my mouth.
I am paying for it in this long ass procedure. You should see this blueprint of everything they have to do, “stage 1 this, stage 2 this, stage 3 this.” It’s a lot. Way more invasive than it would have been had I just gotten my shit together and addressed these things when I should have.
I’m paying for it in pain. When they are putting a sandblaster in my mouth to get the build-up off or filling cavities—that shit hurts.
Lastly, I’m paying for it financially. Trust me, you DO NOT want to see the bill I have. It’s ridiculous.
If someone would have told me, "It's pay now or pay later, Jared. You can pay a little now and go to the dentist every six months like a normal person, or you can pay by the thousands in ten years,” I would have absolutely gone to the dentist then.
Here’s how it relates to you guys:
A lot of people will laugh or think, “How could you have done that? That’s really gross,” and it is, but I would argue that most of you are in the same boat with your weight loss.
A lot of people listening to this have been struggling with their weight loss for the last decade. You’ve been convinced that you can/should do it on your own, just like I was convinced that I could just brush my teeth on my own.
I’ll be honest with you guys, you not getting help with your weight loss is costing you much more than what my dentist is costing me.
For most people, trying to do this weight loss thing on your own—it’s like a noose you’re hanging yourself with. It's such a dangerous road.
It’s like a treadmill: you’re trying to make it happen and figure it out on your own, you feel like you’re doing something, but you’re never going anywhere.
I’ve been doing this for a long time—and I remember names and faces. It breaks my heart when I see the same people in my DMs for years, in my groups for years, wanting me to resend them the course I had that was out 5 years ago because they are still struggling.
If you think it’s crazy that I went a decade without going to the dentist, I would ask you: isn’t it crazy that you’re still trying to go through your shit by yourself?
Again, it’s costing you more than not going to the dentist is costing me.
It’s costing you your quality of life.
I talk to a lot of people who are avoiding going out to dinner, avoiding going on vacation, wanting to have sex with the lights off… It’s costing you your confidence, your mental health, your happiness.
You hate the way you feel and you hate the way you look, you're in this constant struggle, this constant failure, wondering “Will I ever make it?”
I’m not telling you that losing the weight will make you happy.
I am telling you that this struggle is costing you your happiness. It’s costing you time with your family and friends.
We only have so much time.
How many times are you not going on that vacation, not going out to that beach because you’re embarrassed, focusing on how tight your clothes are, focusing on food, not being present?
For a lot of you, it’s costing, quite literally, years off your life.
I talked to a person who told me if they don’t get their shit together, they are probably going to go into organ failure this year.
What would you do if someone told you that if you don’t get your shit together now, then you’ll still be struggling in 10 years, you won't be able to play with your grandkids, you’re going to be on medication, or you’re going to die early?
I had a client who needed a kidney transplant. He needed to qualify for the procedure, but he was too overweight. He fell off, never took his program seriously—and 5 years later, he died.
He didn’t know he was going to die, but I bet if someone would have told him… Things would have been different.
I know you’re mentally exhausted by this struggle and you're taking that to every area of your life, your work, and your relationships.
You only have 100% focus. If you are distracted by macros, the way your clothes fit, etc., you can’t be present in your life—with your loved ones.
This is costing you more than not going to the dentist is costing me.
The money on food from binging, the cost of health care, the cost of your kids following in your footsteps…
I know some of you may be offended right now, but I’m not here to make you feel good—I’m here to change your life.
To those of you who have been following me for years and messaging me, I love you, and I love that you are trying—but what if we got this fixed a year ago?
When Sal Di Stefano was on the podcast he said, “You only have so many failures in the tank.”
He means psychologically.
If you have been struggling, you only have so many failures—at some point, you’re going to relent.
We have 180’d people’s lives who said coaching was “[their] last hope.”
Don’t let your ego get in the way, ask for help if you need it.
I hope this resonated with you guys, and if it didn’t, or you're not ready—that’s okay.
But if this is a wake-up call for you, please reach out, and let’s end this struggle together.
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