The Motivation Manifesto - 7 Things to do When Motivation Runs Out (because it will) | DFIO Ep.256
About Today’s Episode:
Welcome back to the show! Today’s episode is a solo episode that I am calling the Motivation Manifesto.
I am going to give you 7 tips on what to do when motivation runs out—because let’s be honest—it WILL run out and I want to give you a plan for when motivation leaves you.
I was not originally planning on doing a whole podcast on this, but I created some smaller content on this topic and you guys enjoyed it so much—and found it helpful—so I wanted to bring the topic of motivation to a bigger platform and get a little more in-depth.
My notes today are actually a downloadable PDF that I originally created for my Fat Loss Simplified Facebook Group (which is completely free and you should absolutely join), but I have made this PDF available for everyone who listens to the podcast.
You can download the PDF here (100% free, you don’t even need to enter an email)
Let’s get into the show!
Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction & about today's episode
02:23 Our sponsors
06:29 What is the Motivation Manifesto?
09:58 #1 - Double check what you're doing is actually sustainable, practical, doable, and enjoyable
13:34 #2 - Remind yourself why you do all the other stuff you do daily when you aren't motivated
23:15 #3 - Be honest with yourself & ask yourself if you even want the thing you say you want
27:32 #4 - Get around motivated people
32:11 #5 - Use any resistance as a trigger for deliberate action
34:55 #6 - Don't be surprised when motivation leaves you without notice
39:47 #7 - Remember it gets easier every time you show up when you AREN'T motivated
43:28 Episode outro and how to apply for coaching
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The Motivation Manifesto - 7 Things to do When Motivation Runs Out (because it will) | DFIO Ep.256
0:00:00.0 Jared Hamilton: I'll be honest, if you are relying on motivation to get where you want to be, to change your life, to lose the weight, to get on the other side of your struggles, you will fail because you have no foundation with anything that you're working with if you are relying on motivation because motivation is fickle. Motivation is like that friend we all have that we just, we love, but we can't rely on.
0:00:25.2 Jared Hamilton: What's going on team? Welcome back to another episode of Dieting From The Inside Out. If you're new here, welcome to the show, my name's Jared Hamilton, it's a pleasure meeting you, I'm your host. Now, today's episode is a solo episode, but it's a little bit different than what I was originally intending on doing because today's episode is what I'm calling the Motivation Manifesto. It's basically the tactics and strategies, I believe there's seven I'm gonna give you on what to do when motivation runs out because if we're being honest, it's going to. Just being very upfront about it, motivation will absolutely leave you and I want to give you a plan on what to do when that happens.
0:01:04.1 Jared Hamilton: So that's what we're doing in today's episode because originally, I wasn't gonna necessarily do a whole podcast on this, I did like a smaller training or a little bit smaller pieces of content on this, and you guys freak the fuck out, you seem to really... I got a really big... What word am I looking for? A really big amount of positive feedback that it was really helpful, so I figured, okay, well, people are enjoying this and it's helpful then, maybe I'll just put it on a bigger platform and get a little bit more in depth on it.
0:01:33.7 Jared Hamilton: So my notes today are coming from my phone because I actually created originally basically a PDF of this because I wanted to have... I basically gave it first to everyone in the Fat Loss Simplified Facebook group. And fun fact, if you're not in there, you should be because I put some of my best free content in there. But it's basically, I wanted to create this motivation manifesto, seven things, how do I word it? Seven things to do when motivation runs out because it will. I wanted people to have this as something they can put on their phone, if you're watching the YouTube, I just kinda showed it to you.
0:02:08.7 Jared Hamilton: By the way, if you're listening and want that, I'll have it in the show notes. If you actually want that downloadable PDF where you can have this with you all the time, just thrown that out there, but that's where my notes are coming from today. So if you are watching the YouTube, which you should be, you'll be seeing me go back and forth to this thing a lot.
0:02:23.4 Jared Hamilton: Now, before we get into the nuts and bolts of today's show, massive thank you to the sponsors. Sponsor number one, FlexPro Meals, big thank you to those guys because they keep me fed. [chuckle] No for real though. The big thing with FlexPro for me that is such a no-brainer and why I love them so much is this way, it's number one, convenience for me is everything, and I know most people that listen to this, convenience is the number one thing in your life as well as in if what you're working on, what you're doing is not convenient, you're probably not going to do it. Whether it be you have kids, you have a soccer game, you have to take your daughter to dance practice, you've got work, you've got over time, you've got all the stuff, this is when we end up in drive-throughs a lot. This was when we stop into the gas station and get an $8 stick of beef jerky that wasn't satisfying or you living off protein shakes or whatever. And that's all find and dandy, but the thing is that's not only gonna be really expensive over time, but a lot of times it's gonna be harder to reach your goals.
0:03:16.2 Jared Hamilton: If you're smashing the Wendy's drive-through four times a week, that's a big deal. That's enough to like, okay, that might actually affect your results because there's a lot of calories in that and it may not be as accurate and all those things. So having FlexPro, at least in my fridge has been the biggest helpful kind of thing for me because the meals taste amazing, they're made by a chef, they're on deck in my fridge ready to go at all times, either that or in my freezer, so they're not gonna go bad. And it's cheaper than going through the drive-through every day or however often you do. So it's a pretty big deal, it's really, really helpful and it's gonna help you get to your goals faster and more seamlessly.
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0:04:33.7 Jared Hamilton: But anyway, I don't suggest 1st Phorm just 'cause their clothing is dope, but because their supplements and who they are is dope or if we wanna say it like that. 'Cause here's the thing, we all know supplements are not the end all be all. I'm not a big supplement beat off, I'm not gonna tell you you have to go take them, but here's the truth, supplements can absolutely help with your life and your goals, filling in gaps that you're not getting with food. If you are good, if you're hitting your protein like no other, you don't have any joint pain, your recovery's great, your sleep is great, your... I think I said protein already. You're having like five or six servings of fruits and vegetables a day. All the whole nine yards, you're good, you don't need supplements necessarily.
0:05:16.8 Jared Hamilton: But let's say you're lacking in some of those areas, let's say you definitely don't eat enough vegetables, and so then you're bloated all the time, or you're gassy all the time, or you know you need the micronutrients from vitamins and minerals because you're deficient in some area or you just know you don't get enough micronutrients. Well, then what are we gonna do if you're not gonna eat enough broccoli, asparagus and apples like... Well, what are you gonna do? This is where a supplement comes in like a multi-vitamin or a greens powder or something like that that's going to give you those.
0:05:47.5 Jared Hamilton: Or if you're struggling with let's say your protein intake because you just can't get enough through chicken or whatever food sources, or let's say you're vegan or vegetarian, you have the hardest time getting your numbers up while keeping your calories in check, well, protein powder works really, really well. Or if you always end up finding yourself buying shitty ass chalky-tasting protein bars or nasty disgusting protein shakes and you want something that tastes better, that absorbs really well and that mixes us well, well, that's where these can be a good fit.
0:06:14.7 Jared Hamilton: So if that's kind of up your alley and something that you're interested in or wanna level up what you're currently taking, go hit the link below to go to 1st Phorm's site and see what they've got going on. I also have down there my supplement YouTube video, if you're not quite sure where to start with supplements or where to go with that, I'll leave that down there as well. But nonetheless, let's get into today's show. Be sure you're subscribed by the way.
0:06:33.9 Jared Hamilton: Now, let's talk about this, so let me just preface it with this. The Motivation Manifesto, we're talking about seven things to do when motivation runs out because it will. Here, let me just preface it with this. This episode is not a motivation podcast. I, honest to God, don't want you getting fired up and like, "Oh, let's go da da with this." This is like, yeah, this is a motivation episode, but it's more or less like I'm going to educate you and get you ready when motivation leaves. I am not going to give you any tactics or strategies on to get motivated because it's very surface level.
0:07:06.3 Jared Hamilton: I'll be honest, if you are relying on motivation to get where you want to be, to change your life, to lose the weight, to get on the other side of your struggles, you will fail because you have no foundation with anything that you're working with if you are relying on motivation because motivation is fickle. Motivation is like that friend we all have that we just we love, but we can't rely on. They say they'll be at the party at 10:00 and they show up at 12:00. Or they say, "Yeah, I'll be by to help you move," and then they're like, "Oh, I totally forgot last minute," and they're flaky, that kind of thing.
0:07:39.9 Jared Hamilton: 'Cause here's the truth, you can appreciate motivation, a lot of times coaches like me will talk shit about motivation, that's not the case. You can appreciate it when it's here, but you can't rely on it. It's not stable, it's very fleeting like any other emotion, so when it's there, bask in it, enjoy it. There's a joke I put on Twitter the other day, and if you're not following me on Twitter, you should be, it's @hamiltontrained. I did a tweet the other day, I said, "Man, it's a good thing that motivation isn't a pre-requisite to workout because I would be fucked."
0:08:11.8 Jared Hamilton: And then I think I even shared it on Instagram and in the caption I put, "If I had a dollar for every time I was motivated to workout over the last three years, I'd have about $15." [chuckle] I'm not a motivated person when it comes to the... I'm not motivated to eat right, I'm not motivated to work, especially working out. As a fitness person, I'm like the least fitness-y person you'll ever meet. I just like to help people not suffer, that's really it for me. I just use fitness and nutrition and inner work as the gateway to get into that.
0:08:45.2 Jared Hamilton: Now, but here's the truth, when it comes to motivation, again, I don't want you to rely on it, this podcast episode is not about getting you motivated. I don't want you to leave this a show and be feeling on top of the world. I want you to leave this episode and go, "Holy shit, I have the tools, the tactics, the strategies to stay on top and not be derailed when motivation leaves." That's my goal with you. 'Cause I'm not here to hype you up, I'm here to change your life. That's ultimately what my goal is, and I don't want to... 'Cause at the end of the day, we will hype you up, bullshit is very surface level, and yeah, it feels good, but if I'm being real, I'm not here for... You're not here for mental masturbation, you're here for changing your fucking life, and that's what this is about.
0:09:28.7 Jared Hamilton: So let's get into the Motivation Manifesto, seven things to do when motivation runs out because it absolutely will. So let me get this here. Okay. Number one, by the way, like I said, if you want this downloadable PDF to have on your phone or whatever, I originally made it for my community and my Facebook group 'cause I put my best stuff in that community, and if you're not in it, first of all, you absolutely should be. There'll be a link in the description if you wanna join that, but also I'll leave a link in the description for my Motivation Manifesto. Okay? Number one, double check what you're doing is actually sustainable, practical, doable and enjoyable.
0:10:09.9 Jared Hamilton: Here's a big thing, half of you guys, the reason you're not motivated is because your plan doesn't allow it. If you told me, you said, "Jared, I want you to do cardio every day. I want you to get rid of your favorite foods, no sugar, no alcohol, no carbs, no bread, no going out to eat, no birthday cake, no donuts. Oh, and by the way, I want you to go be motivated and have a good attitude too." Like fuck you, that's not gonna happen. The problem is, it's easy to post on the internet, it's a lifestyle, but the problem is most people don't have their lifestyle in their actual program or diet. Please hear me when I say that. It's easy to post, it's a lifestyle, but you don't have your lifestyle in your plan. You know how many moms tell me that they're scared to eat birthday cake? You know how many wives tell me that date night causes them more anxiety and mental anguish because they're worried about the fucking burger storing fat and knocking them off plan than actually enjoying connecting with their husband? You know how many people tell me they're scared beyond belief?
0:11:15.9 Jared Hamilton: I'm talking about actually scared and terrified to eat more than 1000 calories a day. These are the things that are most prevalent, and here's the truth, you can't be motivated like that. How could you be motivated when you're in fight or flight, and when you're scared? You can't be, it's not gonna happen.
0:11:34.9 Jared Hamilton: If you take everything that you love and care about, throw it out the fucking window and keep you doing an unsustainable plan that you can't actually operate your life in with your family and kids, it's not your fault you're not motivated, the plan doesn't allow it. So right on the gate, this will fix 90% of your problems if you take a step back and go, "Man, let me actually take a second and see if what I'm doing is actually sustainable, practical, doable, and most importantly, enjoyable." Because if you love what you're doing, if you have your favorite foods every day and you're not able to miss a single experience, you're not trapped by your results and everything you're doing is great, your motivation issues will subside. And then also when the days come you're not motivated, you'll have a much easier time showing up because the plan's actually practical and doable, not that big of a deal.
0:12:29.0 Jared Hamilton: You're not motivated to brush your teeth, but it's not suffering to brush your teeth, it's not a big deal, it takes two minutes. But imagine if your teeth-brushing protocol was you doing your own root canal. Well, that's a different story. That's a lot of friction. If I said, "Hey, I want you to eat as much as possible in your calorie deficit, eat your favorite foods every day and only workout a couple of days a week." That's like the teeth-brushing vibes. How about just walk every other day, that's like teeth-brushing vibes. You may not be motivated, but it's not that big of a deal to do. But if I said, "No, I want you to do two hours of cardio every single day, eat 1000 calories a day and only eat chicken and broccoli, and then you're not allowed to go on date night or have birthday cake with your son."
0:13:11.8 Jared Hamilton: Well, that's more of like you doing your own root canal. So half of this is your... How to put? Your plan just isn't allowing motivation, again, it's easy to say it's a lifestyle on the internet, and to your friends, and to lie to yourself and say "it's a lifestyle," but then your lifestyle is not in your plan. 'Cause that's when you whip out all or nothing or whatever bullshit. Okay? That's number one.
0:13:34.0 Jared Hamilton: Number two, let's see, remind yourself why you do all the other stuff you do daily when you aren't motivated. Okay? Here's what I mean by that. You do a lot of shit when you're not motivated, a lot. [chuckle] So I have a list here. You go to work, you shower, you brush your teeth, you clean your house and you pay your bills, that's just a few things when you're not motivated, but why? Why do you do those things? It's because you have reasons rooted in pain, if you don't.
0:14:06.7 Jared Hamilton: What happens if you don't go to work? You don't eat. You lose your house, your kids don't eat. You don't have your phone, you don't have basic necessities, you don't have air conditioning, you don't have heat in the winter. Okay? Why do you shower when you're not motivated to? I was just talking to my wife and I got to bed really late the other night. She just got a shower and I'm like, "Fuck, I gotta go get a shower." And I go, "Man, I just don't want a shower." She goes, "I didn't either, but I'm gross." [chuckle] But that's the thing, why do you shower and brush your teeth when you don't want to, when you're not motivated? It's because if you don't have good hygiene, you're disgusting, no one's gonna wanna hang out with you, your partner's not gonna have sex with you, you are gonna feel gross.
0:14:48.1 Jared Hamilton: Why do you brush your teeth when you don't want to? It's because cavities hurt, bad breath stinks, yellow teeth are gross, all of these things. So if you look like why do you pay your water bill when you're not motivated to? Why do you pay your taxes? It's because you have reasons rooted in pain if you don't do that. If you don't pay your taxes, you go to jail for tax fraud. If you don't pay your water bill, you get your water shut off, you can't flush your toilet, all these kinds of things. Because here's the truth, it's easy, and this is not a very popular thing to say.
0:15:24.4 Jared Hamilton: This is where I always say you gotta turn on the dark side a little bit. What I mean by that is, there are two things that drive human behavior, psychology teaches us this. It's either pursuit of pleasure, the feel good things, or the avoidance of pain. Those are the two of the biggest things that drive human behavior, or arguably the only things that drive human behavior, pursuit of pleasure or avoidance of pain.
0:15:44.5 Jared Hamilton: Now, with that being said, I think personally, a lot of people fall onto one category more than the other. I'm a very much a avoidance of pain person. It's like the question, would you rather not lose or win? It's would you rather pursue pleasure or avoid pain? So I'm curious, which one are you, but I think they're kind of intertwined, but some people in more or less on one side of those spectrums. But here's the thing, in the transformation and internet space with this stuff, you'll hear a lot of the over-played, what's your why? Don't get me wrong, the whole why conversation is great. On the bookshelf behind me, I have Simon Sinek's book called Start With Why, his other book called Seven, I think it's... What's it called? I think it's like he really talks about the seven layers deep of why and all this stuff.
0:16:27.6 Jared Hamilton: I love the why concept. Here's the problem that with the internet though, the internet has overused it, overplayed it, and no one takes it seriously. And the why is rooted in happy things usually. And again, don't take this wrong, that those are great. The happy things are awesome. You need to have those. What's your why? The positive why. The why that makes you cry, like my kids, my happiness, my whatever. But here's the truth, you all don't know what it's costing you not being where you wanna be. Because here's the truth, we always have... When it comes to... Okay, I know my words aren't making sense here. [chuckle] If we take a step back and we have this dichotomy of the two things, either, I will take brushing your teeth as an analogy. I don't wanna brush my teeth, but I also don't wanna have cavities. Which hurts more? And you avoid that one.
0:17:15.7 Jared Hamilton: You brush your teeth for two minutes because brushing your teeth for two minutes is less painful and less a big deal than getting cavities or having a stinky ass mouth. You go to work at a job you hate because it hurts less going to your 9:00 to 5:00 than going broke and your kid's not eating. You pay your taxes and other bills because it hurts worse getting your water shut off and going to jail for tax fraud than it does paying the bill. Every decision we make, it goes down to which hurts worse and you avoid that one and you do the lesser of the two evils.
0:17:48.6 Jared Hamilton: So here's the thing, we need to put your goals here in the weight loss and transformation world on the same level. Because if you say, I know what to do, but don't do it, you don't know what's at stake. I'll be really honest with you. If you knew how shitty your life was gonna be, fast forward 20 years, if you knew all the bad shit that was gonna happen to you, if you knew what was at stake right now, you would be executing effortlessly like no one's business. Guys, I've had... I remember there's a fun little story, and I'm gonna try to not take forever on this episode, but the cool thing with the podcast is it lets me elaborate more and go deeper with some of these things.
0:18:25.8 Jared Hamilton: I had a guy back when I was a trainer, before I built and scaled my online coaching company, I was an in-person trainer just by myself, just in-person coach. Well, I had a client, his name was Darren. Well, Darren was extremely overweight, he probably needed to lose 100 pounds or more. He had big health issues, like his liver and kidneys were shutting. He was on transplant list and things like that. Well, Darren was not consistent at all. He would wanna work and exercise and do the least amount of things possible. He would cancel sessions all the time, and he would not show up and he would ghost me at the gym and he was not putting in any effort at all.
0:19:11.7 Jared Hamilton: Well, and then lo and behold, it's no wonder then he didn't make it in the program 'cause then he fell off and never came back. Well, just because he was paying for sessions and ghosting them and no showing them and not eating right and not following the plan. So then he didn't get results. Well, Darren, two years later died, completely died. Two years later, three years later, not very long. Completely, he's passed away. He's no longer here with us. And when I heard he died, it made me think, I'm like, "Man, if he would have just taken our coaching seriously." Because here's the thing, and maybe in five years, and maybe in five years, either way, we're talking about two to five years later he died because of health complications.
0:19:51.5 Jared Hamilton: I know for a fact, if he would have known he was gonna die when he had his first session with me, if he knew what was on the table, if he knew what was at stake, he would have executed like no one's business. If he would have had someone say, "Hey Darren, if you don't get your shit together, you've got three years left to live." Guess what? He was crazy about his family. He had, I believe, nieces and nephews, and absolutely crazy about. If someone said, "Hey, you have three years if you don't get your shit together. Hey, you only have 10 interactions with your parents before you die." Whatever it was, don't you think he would have got his shit together way faster?
0:20:34.3 Jared Hamilton: What if that happened to you? What if someone came to you and says, "Hey, you're gonna die 10 years early if you don't change." If someone came to you and said, "Hey, your kids are gonna binge eat and then suffer with binge eating for the rest of their lives if you don't get your binge eating under control. Hey, you're gonna go to the grave with this weight if you don't get your shit together." It's kinda like that Christmas movie. You got the Ghost of Christmas Future I think, where it's like, the Ghost of Christmas Future or Christmas Yet to Come, whatever it's been a minute since I've seen it. Took Scrooge into the future, and he's like, "Oh my gosh, why don't they love me and like why don't... Oh my gosh, he saw what was at stake if he doesn't change." But if you don't show up for yourself just because I don't feel like it or I'm not motivated. That's entry level. It tells me, you don't want what you say you want, or you don't know what's at stake. This is why you need to sit down and go, "Okay, what if I don't get my shit together? What if I stay stuck the rest of my life? What if I go to my grave with this?" What's on the table? Will you die early while your kids continue the struggle?
0:21:45.5 Jared Hamilton: 'Cause I'll be real, because we coach a lot of people who have struggled for years. Most people who are struggling right now tell me, mom and dad struggled, grandma and grandpa struggled, their grandpa and grandma struggled. Well, guess what? It's up to you to stop this generational bullshit going through your family. Every family has the one. Whether it be financially, whether it be health, whether it be weight loss, whether it be binge eating, whatever your shit is, every family has the one that stops it. And that could be you. But you have to have... Here's the truth. You have to realize how much pain you're in. But the truth is, most of you listening to the... Most of you listening in... Wow, words are hard. Most of you listening to this are so used to being in pain, it doesn't hurt so bad anymore, you're kinda numb to it. So then it's like, I'm not motivated, I'll just do it tomorrow. And then you never... It never comes. Then 30 years later you're like, "Fuck. I'm still struggling. How the hell is this happening?"
0:22:40.1 Jared Hamilton: This is literally the people we see in the coaching program every single day. But this is the thing is if you're... I know I'm taking forever on this one, but it's really important. This is why you need to remind yourself why you do the things that you already do outside of weight loss and transformation that you don't wanna do when you're not motivated, it's 'cause you have reasons rooted in pain. So I would sit down and get the reasons rooted in pain if you stay stuck. Because then when the day comes, you're like, "Fuck. All right, I guess I gotta... I'm not motivated to go to the gym. I'm not motivated to meditate. I don't wanna eat right." You literally look at that list and go, "Oh, that's what I'm choosing if I don't do this."
0:23:15.3 Jared Hamilton: Next, manifesto number three. Be honest with yourself and ask yourself if I even want the things I say I want. That one's a... That's a big one. I'll be honest and I'll try not to take as long on all these. Most people think it would be nice if they had the weight off, if they quit binge eating, if they fit in their clothes. But most people don't actually want it bad enough to change or invest in themselves. It blows me away. I see people all the time, they're like... It comes down to... This is when excuses get made. And here's the thing, it doesn't even always have to be about money.
0:23:53.7 Jared Hamilton: I'll see it all about money all day, everyday. Someone applies for coaching, and they... And let's say it's outside their budget, but the cool thing is I have... I'll be real with you. I have so many finance options where we can work with almost any budget. Any budget you could give me, I could get you help. Hell, I've even been known to find someone help outside of my company. I've had people come to our coaching program who are like, "All right, I need help, I wanna work with you." But then it's just outside the budget, because the best and the most affordable never go hand in hand. But it's just not going to work at all. I have literally referred people out to other coaches outside of my company, because I think someone is either a better fit over there, or it's in... And I know their prices and it's in their budget or whatever the case is. But here's the thing, the way that I view so much of this stuff is, kinda like search and rescue.
0:24:48.9 Jared Hamilton: I was always told in the world of search and rescue like the helicopters, like crashed a boat in the ocean, if there are 20 people in the water and 10 slots on the helicopter, who do they help? I'm always told it's the people that are swimming towards the helicopter. Here's the truth, most of you guys are not swimming towards the helicopter. Most of you are like, "Oh, someone save me." But then it comes down time to, you actually have to put action, effort or resources in, and all of a sudden you don't have any.
0:25:11.5 Jared Hamilton: Like I said, I've seen this with people with coaching like, "Oh, I can't afford it." "Okay. Cool. Well, what if I can make the numbers affordable, would you do it?" Probably not. Oh, here's my thing. A lot of times with some of these options with coaching, I'm not looking to get rich off somebody. I just want to help, but the thing is money and finance as an investing shows priority. But asking someone, "Hey, if I can make the numbers work, would you even... Would you still want to get help?" And they go, "You know I don't think so."
0:25:40.8 Jared Hamilton: You have to ask yourself, do you even want the things you say you want? 'Cause if you do, why aren't your actions changing? 'Cause it doesn't even have to me money. Why are you not executing the things I show you on the podcast? Why are you not following all the free shit I put out? I'll be totally real with you and I'll be arrogant for just a second, my free content is better than most people's paid content. My free courses are better than most people's paid courses. My Instagram account is gonna give you more and better information than most people's paid coaching programs. My free fat loss group, my Fat Loss Simplified group, I have so much shit in that group that most people should never need to hire a coach. But the problem is, why don't we execute then?
0:26:22.0 Jared Hamilton: It goes down to, do you actually want the things you say you want? It's easy to think, it would be nice if I could lose the weight, it'd be nice if I could quit binge eating, it'd be nice if I could stop this generational bullshit so my kids don't struggle. Cool. Well, then why aren't your actions changing? So you have to honestly ask yourself, do you actually want these things enough to change or do you just think it would be nice? And I'll be totally real with you, most people I talk to think it would be just nice, but when it comes time for their actions and check that's a big thing.
0:26:49.9 Jared Hamilton: This is why it's on the motivation manifesto list is no wonder you're not motivated if you don't even fucking want it. If you're never motivated it's 'cause you think it'd be nice, but you don't actually want it, otherwise your actions would change. You know what I mean? It's almost like we see this with kids a lot, with areas outside of weight loss. A lot of you guys have kids that are like, we'll call it the bratty teenager who doesn't have money, can't afford anything, but they're also not willing to go get a job.
0:27:16.5 Jared Hamilton: Your kid bitches to you, "Oh mom, I'm broke. Can you pay for this? Oh, I don't have money. I can't afford that. I wanna go out to eat with my friends, I can't afford." You go, "You could get a job." And they'll go, "Ah, but I don't want one." "Well, I guess you don't wanna afford going out to eat with your friends and money very much." That's what you would tell your kid. So why is it different for you? It's not.
0:27:35.7 Jared Hamilton: Next, manifesto number four. This is the ultimate hack, by the way. You wanna talk about a hack to get and stay motivated, this is it. Motivation manifesto number four. Get around motivated people. You have to understand that most of your issues go away, getting around the right squad of people. We see this with kids. You could take a perfectly... I smacked my mic out of my... Out of my face. Excuse me. You could take a kid who's a great kid, I've seen this happen a million times, a fantastic kid, get him around some shit-heads, good kids start to leave, doesn't he? Like not leave the situation, he starts to turn into the rotten egg too.
0:28:12.7 Jared Hamilton: You're no different. You know why you're not motivated? Is because you hang around a bunch of stuck unmotivated people. This is proven in everywhere, in animals, in nature, in psychology and in humans. We unconsciously become like those we spend most amount of times with. If you are a positive person you... Or I'm sorry, if you are a positive person and you hang out with a bunch of negative assholes, you will turn into a negative asshole. If you are overweight and you start hanging out with a bunch of people who prioritize their health, fitness and well-being, guess what? You will unconsciously lose more weight because you'll start doing what they do.
0:28:45.7 Jared Hamilton: And if you start hanging around a bunch of fat, broke, unmotivated and stuck people, guess what? You're gonna become overtime, fat, broke, unmotivated and unhappy just like them. If you don't make very much income, if you're broke, you start hanging around wealthy people, all of a sudden you're going to find ways to earn more money, you're gonna get raises, things like that. Guys, they've even proven this in animals, it's crazy. You could take a feral pig on a farm. That motherfucker breaks out, goes out into the wilderness for a month, he will come back with muscles, hair, and tusks because his physiology adapts to environmental circumstances. It's proven by science, neuroscience and psychology.
0:29:29.5 Jared Hamilton: Your brain... You have to understand, we always evolve to what our environment is. You can break this down to the cellular protein expressions. Go study. There's a guy named Dr. Joe Dispenza, he's got some great material on this if you're nerdy like me. But we become like those we associate with. Motivation is gonna leave you. You need to get around people who are disciplined. You need to get around people who are motivated. And if you don't have that, that should be your number one priority. It doesn't have to be in person. If you're not inside my Fat Loss Simplified group, there's a free hub of thousands of people who are moving forward making progress and winning for free. So get in there, engage with them, post in there, comment on their shit and all of a sudden you're getting more fired up.
0:30:12.6 Jared Hamilton: Go to a gym and workout with people who are in the shape you wanna be in. Go join clubs, go do things, go get out there wherever that is where the people were... Find the groups where the version of you that you're trying to be is at and just go be there. It's gonna be awkward. It's gonna be uncomfortable. Guys, when I got into business for myself, I just wanted to get in there. I still do this. I just wanna get in the room.
0:30:34.5 Jared Hamilton: Guys, I am intimidated in most rooms I go into on the day-to-day basis. I was just in a room today, I'm in a mentorship program, and I was in a room today with a bunch of other online coaches, and I am not... And I am like one of the... I'm like middle of the road or lower on the totem pole with the success in that group. I'm intimidated. I'm like, "Fuck. Do I even belong here?" That's the room I need to be in. Because guess what? They're pulling me up. It's the same thing here. Half of your motivation issues is because you are in the wrong room. You need to get there in the room with the people who are the versions that you wanna be. If it's motivation, you need to get around motivated motherfuckers and it's as simple as that. And get out of the rooms of the stuck motherfuckers. 'Cause I can tell you, if all of your friends are using terminologies like, I'm not motivated. I've always been like that. I'm all or nothing. I'm stuck, I'm fat, whatever.
0:31:25.7 Jared Hamilton: I'm not saying don't take this on a context. I'm not saying don't hang out with people because of their body or whatever. But I'm saying, you know what? We all know people who are always bitching about they're stuck, people who are always out of shape and they never get where they're wanting to be. Again, I'm not saying don't hang out with fat people or people who are overweight or anything like that. I'm saying is... That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm saying 'cause I know some people are gonna be like, "Oh my gosh, Jared's fat shaming?" That's not what I'm saying. I'm saying that you gotta be very protective of your energy and the people you spend the most amount of time with.
0:31:54.0 Jared Hamilton: And if you are surrounded by... If you have a goal in, let's say, this world, if you wanna lose a bunch of weight, but all of your friends are overweight and talking you out of going to the gym and always making fun of you for ordering better food and making better decisions and investing in yourself, that's why you can't be successful 'cause it's crabs in a bucket and they're pulling you back down. That's what I'm saying.
0:32:13.0 Jared Hamilton: All right, number... What number are we on? Number five. Manifesto number five. This is a big one. I want you to use any resistance as a trigger for a deliberate action. Use any resistance as a trigger for deliberate action. Here's what I mean by that. When you aren't motivated, when motivation is fucking gone and you're like, "I don't wanna do it." That should be your trigger to execute. Think of it this way, when you get startled and your hands go up, someone jumps around you go, "Ah!" and your hands jump up, you getting scared was the trigger for your hands to come up to protect you. It was the "Ah! Shit!" and your hands came up. It's the same thing with this. When you get resistance, there's an amazing book called The War of Art by Steven Pressfield, you should go buy it right now. Fuck David, David's the mastermind behind the podcast production. David, I want you to put the Amazon link for The War of Art in the show notes, please.
0:33:13.1 Jared Hamilton: But here's the thing, guys. Steven Pressfield talks about you need to use resistance as the trigger for deliberate action. As in when you go, "Ah, I don't wanna go to the gym." You need to immediately go to the gym. When you go, "Ah, fuck. I don't wanna meditate." You need to get up and go meditate. You need to use you not wanting to do the thing as the trigger for deliberate all in action and it will change your life. Because right now, you listen to that voice in your head, "Oh, I don't wanna go to the gym. Maybe I should. Oh, I'm an all or nothing person. I think I'm gonna start over Monday." Fuck that. Fuck you. Don't do that. Use that trigger.
0:33:46.7 Jared Hamilton: Another guy that I study a lot, his name is Andy Frisella, he's the CEO of 1st Phorm. He calls that the bitch voice. When your bitch voice is like, "Oh, you know what? You're an all or nothing person. Just start over Monday?" Go, "Fuck you. No, I'm not." And you go do the thing you know you should do. There's an old saying, "You can tell yourself things, but you can't listen to yourself." There's that bitch voice that want you to stay stuck, the old conditioning that the old self we call in psychology that wants you to stay stuck because getting stuck is comfortable, it's predictable, it's what you're used to.
0:34:15.9 Jared Hamilton: Well, you're not gonna get the life you want being stuck. You're gonna have to get uncomfortable. There's... I just did the last week's episode with Sal from Mind Pump. He talked about this, this is a forever thing and you're gonna have to do hard things. I'm not saying to do anything unsustainable or ridiculous, but you can't just not do hard things. Part of the thing with discipline is, is you're gonna have to do things you don't wanna do, that's why it's called discipline. It's why eating a whole pizza and watching TV takes no discipline, 'cause it's really fun. But this is also why discipline is what changes you. It's a whole different thing. So that's one of the best things you can do for when motivation leaves 'cause it will is use the resistance as a sign to go, boom, I'm gonna execute.
0:34:58.0 Jared Hamilton: Next, almost done. Home stretch. Manifesto number six. Don't be surprised when it leaves you without notice. This is a big one, 'cause again, guys, I'm not like... Yeah, some of these will help you with motivation, but I wanna just prepare you for when you're not motivated, because it's gonna leave. Don't be surprised. It blows me away how many people are just like, "I can't believe it's gone." And then they're shocked when they're not motivated. It's almost like, imagine you have the best marriage or relationship in the world, and then all of a sudden your partner cheats on you or they leave you and you're like, "I never in a million years would have expected that." That's how half of you motherfuckers act when motivation leaves, you're like, "I can't believe it left me." And it's like... And then you act like someone's holding you back by chains from doing your workout or whatever it is you wanna do.
0:35:45.5 Jared Hamilton: Don't be surprised. You have to understand, are you surprised when your car runs out of gas? Are you surprised when... I don't know, you wake up on a... When you're tired? When your alarm clock goes off in the morning? Of course not. It's just how the game works. So it's no different with this. Motivation do not expect it to stay here. That's the problem. I'll put it this way, you know what? One of the most tactical pieces of advice you could do right now is this, assume you're never gonna be motivated, ever. Imagine you have a motivation disease where you will never be motivated for the next 10 years. Well, then I would say, "Are you still gonna execute and follow the plan for changing your life?" Well, if you actually give a damn then you'll say, "Absolutely."
0:36:28.9 Jared Hamilton: The thing is though, if that's the case then, well, what kind of plan would you have to have in place? What kind of mental preparation would you have to have in place if you know you're never gonna be motivated for the rest of... For the next 10 years? Or the rest of your life? That's how I want you to think about this. I want you to go, what kind of mental frame, mental preparation and plan do I need to have in place if I'm gonna have a motivation disease and never be motivated or not for the next decade? Because here's what's gonna happen. Now, when you are motivated, you can go, "Oh, this is nice. It's a nice surprise." But you're ready for the storm. You're ready for and expecting and anticipating not being motivated, and you have a plan in place. So this way, when you are motivated, it's like, "Oh, this is fucking dope." 'Cause you have to think about this logically. If you said, what percentage of the time are you not motivated? Let's say it's 50%. That's so much.
0:37:19.0 Jared Hamilton: That is an insane amount. Is it practical to think you'll be motivated forever? Well, no. Well, do you wanna keep your results forever? Well, probably, otherwise you wouldn't be listening to this at 37 minutes in. Well, then we have to have plans in place when we aren't motivated, which means all the stuff I've talked about, but specifically the last one using the not being motivated as a trigger, using the resistance as a trigger to execute, but then also just don't be surprised. It's one of those things where you just can't be surprised when it leaves, it's like being surprised when your motivation leaves is literally like being surprised when your gas tank goes empty. It's like, "No, it's supposed to. It's how this game works." 'Cause you have to also understand how motivation is cultivated. I didn't touch on that yet. Motivation is... Most people have it backwards. Most people assume motivation is results. Motivation then action.
0:38:07.8 Jared Hamilton: Most people assume that you get... You're motivated. The motivation causes you to take action, then because of those actions, you get... Or you get results. It's not like that. It goes, in spite of not being motivated, you have action. We could call it unmotivated action. Unmotivated action then produces results, then motivation might pop out of the corner. That's how this game works. Inaction does not ever cause motivation to happen. Think about it, why would it? You doing nothing somehow cultivates you to wanna do shit? Of course not. It doesn't... An object... It's like, isn't it Newton's laws that go, an object in motion stays at motion, and an object at rest stays at rest? It's no different for motivation. If you've done nothing with your life and you've been stagnant for the last 30 years, well, of course, you're not gonna be motivated. Why would your physiology and psychology be motivated if you have not had action? That would be like your kid saying, "Mom, I'm broke. I don't have a job." And you're going, "Well, have you applied?" And he goes, "No. I'm just expecting them to call me."
0:39:12.5 Jared Hamilton: It's like, fuck, bro, that's not how this works. You have to go put in effort and action into applying, then over time they'll call you and hire you. But you don't just sit on your ass and expect these companies to hire you. You don't... That's not how it works, you have to apply and act, then they accept you. Motivation is the same way, you don't just get blessed by the motivation fairy, and then you're good. You have to put in deliberate unmotivated action. The deliberate unmotivated action then produces results. Now you start to get motivated, lather, rinse, repeat.
0:39:42.8 Jared Hamilton: All right, last one. This is a big one. Sorry, I'm a little bit congested today. Manifesto number seven. Remember, it gets easier every time you show up when you are not motivated. I know right now, guys, if you've been showing up... If you've been doing this game and you really struggle. Showing up for yourself when you are not motivated is the hardest thing ever. I get it. Been there, done that. But you have to understand, every time you show up for yourself in spite of not being motivated, you are forging the skills of discipline, self-reliance, grit, and proving to yourself you are someone who is worth being shown up for. It is a mini win and you are literally sharpening this blade. Actually, to be honest, you are forging the blade, then sharpening the blade of your mental skill set and the kind of person who you are. 'Cause again, we don't get what we want, we get who we are. I'm sorry, let me rephrase that, "We don't get what we want, we get what we are. Therefore to get more, we have to become more." It's one of my favorite quotes by James Allen.
0:40:44.6 Jared Hamilton: But here's the thing, is every time you show up for yourself when you are not motivated, you are proving to yourself who you actually are, the version of yourself that you are, then you start to get those things. This is why you have to understand, it gets easier every time you do it. We're creatures of habit. You sucked at your job at first, now you're really good at your job. I used to... I don't know, sometimes I wonder if I'm good or bad at this podcast game. But if you listen to episode number one and episode right now, they're two different people. I'm not saying anything spectacular, podcasting. But I used to get made fun of for how I talk. I used to get made fun of for no one wanting to listen to me. I used to get made fun of and they're like, "Oh, here's one of those Hamilton boys, they can't shut the fuck up." Well, now I get paid to talk and I have a podcast that reach hundreds of thousands and millions of people. You have to understand that you get better at things, and you have to understand is, if you suck at showing up for yourself when you're not motivated, just focus on the one. Like, all right, today I'm just gonna show up for myself. I'll quit tomorrow, whatever.
0:41:43.6 Jared Hamilton: And then every time you do that, it's gonna get easier and easier and easier. But every time you play this game where you're like, I'm gonna execute only when I'm motivated. I'm gonna go through my... Your spurts of discipline then you fall off, it's just gonna get harder and harder and harder. Know that every time you show up for yourself when you don't want to, it's going to get easier over time, I promise.
0:42:05.8 Jared Hamilton: That my friends is the Motivation Manifesto, the seven things... Actually, wait. Hang on, let me double check the subtitle. The Motivation Manifesto, the seven things to do when motivation runs out because it will. I really wanna emphasize the because it will. Because again, I know you're excited... We see this even in coaching. Someone invest and signs up for coaching or applies, gets accepted, signs up for coaching, they are so fired up. But we have to have that conversations like, "Yo, just because we're here guiding you, it doesn't mean motivation is not gonna go south." Your pattern of sabotage is you'll be excited... You have kid on Christmas morning, you're fired up 'cause of the new program, then about a month and a half, two months in, the old pattern kicks in. The difference is in side coaching, we're ready for it and we help you through it. But this is the pattern.
0:42:51.4 Jared Hamilton: This is why your answer isn't on the other side of another diet or another program or another coach or another whatever. This is the pattern of all of this where you start something kid on Christmas morning vibes, then it's over. And this is... Or the motivation is over, I should say. This is why we have to have a plan in place for when motivation goes south. 'Cause I would be doing you a disservice if I did not come on here and I'm teaching you about motivation and just give you shit that's gonna fire you up. I would rather you not be fired up... Sorry. I would rather you not be fired up and you have a very calm understanding of, okay, I can win this war now. That's what this is about.
0:43:30.6 Jared Hamilton: Thank you again for tuning in to today's episode. I really enjoy doing these. I love... Don't get me wrong, I love my interviews with these amazing guests I have on, but I still love doing solo episodes with you guys with whatever content is gonna be the most helpful. Now, I do have a few things before we go. Number one, like I said, if you want this, The Motivation Manifesto Guide, I'm showing it to the screen on the YouTube right now. If you want that to download to your phone, I made it again originally for my Fat Loss Simplified community, but I'll give it to you as well. Actually, we'll just have it in the show notes so you can just click it. It's a can of a PDF, you don't have to enter your email in or anything like that, you just click it and there's a download to phone button, and that's it. 'Cause I appreciate you being here. Second of all, if you were not in that group, that Fat Loss Simplified group, you will want to be because I put in... That's where content like this comes out first.
0:44:15.1 Jared Hamilton: I'm telling you guys have no idea of the strategy and the mental side of what we do to make sure that we're giving you in that group the best content possible. It's not just what Jared thinks, it's what conversations are being happened, what you all are saying that you want to get. I have things in place in that group where to get feedback on what you guys are wanting, what you're struggling with, because I love you and I care about you, and I appreciate your time and bandwidth and attention, and I want to solve your problems.
0:44:43.2 Jared Hamilton: Guys, fun fact about me, I've always been in that realm of what problems do need solved. I just want to end suffering, that's all I want, and that's what we do in that group at a much deeper level than like Instagram and TikTok. So you'll wanna join that. Link is below. Just add yourself, it's free, and I'll make sure you get accepted. Also, if after having listen to this, you are wanting a little bit more individualized tailor help, you can always apply for coaching below. Because the podcast I hold special, because you guys are a different...
0:45:13.0 Jared Hamilton: I always consider my podcast listeners a different quality of person because it takes a special person to listen to me talk for 45 minutes straight, and I like to honor that which is why if anyone applies for coaching from the podcast, I'm throwing in about $4000 worth of stuff. No bullshit, totally serious. And also, we are basically having to cap how many clients we take on per month and to ensure qualities at an all time high with what we're delivering with coaching. So you basically get to the top of the list when you apply through the podcast, if I'm being honest with you.
0:45:43.5 Jared Hamilton: That's why I have a special podcast link for those that apply for coaching in the description. And then if you're newer to all this and you're like, "I don't even know where to get started with stuff." I do have a dope ass course. It's totally free. It goes through your email. It's a five-day course, it's called the Fat Loss Checklist, and it'll walk you through the A to Zs of how to get long-term, simple, sustainable and practical fat loss and get the goals that you want in a way that you don't have to give up your life.
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What is the Motivation Manifesto:
This episode is not a motivational podcast. This is meant to be educational, so you guys know what to do when motivation leaves. I am not going to be giving you tactics and strategies to get motivated, because that is very surface-level.
Honestly, if you are relying on motivation to get where you want to be—to lose the weight, to get through your struggles—you will fail, because you don’t have a foundation.
Motivation is fickle. It’s like a friend that you love, but you can’t rely on because they’re flaky.
You can appreciate motivation when it’s here, but you can’t rely on it.
It’s not stable.
Like any other emotion, it’s fleeting.
So, this episode’s purpose is not to get you motivated. I want to give you the tools, tactics, and strategies to stay on top, and not be derailed when motivation leaves.
The Motivation Manifesto is 7 things to do when motivation runs out—because it absolutely will.
Manifesto #1 - Double check that what you're doing is actually sustainable, practical, doable, and enjoyable
Here’s the big thing: half of you guys aren’t motivated because your plan doesn’t allow for it.
If you told me that you wanted me to do cardio every day, have no sugar, no alcohol, no going out to eat, no birthday cake, etc., and you wanted me to be happy and motivated, too…
I would think, “Fuck you. That’s not going to happen.”
It's easy to post on the internet that "it's a lifestyle" but most people don't have their lifestyle in their program or diet.
Please hear me when I say that.
So many moms tell me they are scared to eat birthday cake and so many wives tell me that date night causes them more anxiety because they are worried about a burger storing fat and knocking them off their plan.
I have seen so many people who are terrified of eating more than 1000 calories a day.
These things are the most prevalent—and here’s the truth—you can’t be motivated like that.
How can you be motivated when you’re constantly in fight-or-flight mode?
You can’t be.
The plan doesn’t allow for motivation if it takes everything you love and throws it out the window.
Take a step back and double-check if your plan is actually sustainable, practical, doable, and—most importantly—enjoyable. This will fix 90% of your problems.
For most people, doing trendy diets like Optavia, the keto diet, Weight Watchers, or working out every single day…
It's no wonder you aren't motivated.
If you love what you’re doing, you’re eating your favorite foods every single day, you're not missing out on experiences, you’re not trapped by results—your motivation issues will subside.
When days come that you aren’t motivated, you have a hard time stepping up because the plan is actually practical.
For example, you aren’t motivated to brush your teeth, but it’s not suffering to brush your teeth. It's not a big deal, it takes 2 minutes.
If I told you I wanted you to eat as much as possible in your calorie deficit, eat your favorite foods every day, work out a couple days a week—that’s like teeth brushing vibes, it’s not a big deal.
Now, if I told you I wanted you to do 2 hours of cardio every single day, eat 1000 calories every day, and only eat chicken and broccoli… That would be like trying to do your own root canal.
Again, it’s easy to say “it’s a lifestyle,” on the internet, but in real life, you need a plan that allows for motivation AND allows for your lifestyle.
Manifesto #2 - Remind yourself why you do all the other stuff you do daily when you aren't motivated
Here’s what I mean: you do a lot of shit when you’re not motivated.
A lot.
Here are a few examples:
You go to work, shower, brush your teeth, clean your house, & pay your bills when you aren't motivated.
Why do you do those things?
Because you have reasons rooted in avoiding pain (i.e.: bad shit will happen).
What happens if you don’t go to work?
You don’t eat. Your kids don’t eat. You lose your house. You don’t have basic necessities.
Why do you shower or brush your teeth when you don’t want to?
If you don’t shower, you’ll smell bad; don’t brush your teeth and you’ll have bad breath, etc.
You do things like this even when you aren’t motivated to because you have reasons rooted in pain if you don’t do them.
So, what I am going to say next isn’t a very popular thing to say:
You’ve gotta turn on the dark side a little bit.
Psychology teaches that there are two things that drive human behavior: the pursuit of pleasure and the avoidance of pain.
I find that people generally fall more into one side than the other.
For example, I am very much an avoid-pain type of person.
You’ll hear a lot of the overplayed “what’s you why,” question.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with finding your why—you need to have those. The why is typically positive, happy things.
However, we all have things we do because the alternative is painful.
Going back to brushing your teeth—you can either brush your teeth or have cavities, so you brush your teeth because it’s less painful, and less of a big deal than cavities.
Every decision we make boils down to which hurts worse and we avoid that one. We do the lesser of two evils.
So, we need to put your goals in the weight loss and transformation world on this scale.
If you know what you need to do and just don’t do it, it’s because you don’t know what’s at stake.
If you knew all the bad things that would happen to you in the future—you’d be executing like nobody’s business.
Back when I was an in-person trainer, I had a client who had serious health issues.
He needed to lose about 100 lbs and was on transplant lists because his organs were shutting down.
He was totally inconsistent.
He would no-show all the time, was not eating right, and was not following the plan.
He didn’t get results and eventually fell off completely.
Well, a few years later he passed away—from health complications.
When I heard that he passed, I thought, “if only he had taken coaching seriously.”
I know for a fact that if he knew he was going to die in a few years when he came to that first session with me—if he had known what was at stake—he would have followed the plan.
He would have executed like nobody’s business.
If someone came to you and said you’re going to die 10 years early or your kids are going to struggle with binge eating if you don’t get your binge eating under control… Would you change?
If you don’t show up for yourself it tells me you don’t want what you say you want—or you don’t know what’s at stake.
You need to sit down and think about what happens if you don’t get your shit together. What happens if you stay stuck for the rest of your life? What’s on the table?
Most people tell me that Mom and Dad struggled or Grandma and Grandpa struggled, but you know every family has the one person who stops the cycle.
That could be you.
Whether it’s weight, finances, whatever—you can stop the generational cycle.
You have to realize how much pain you’re in.
Most of you reading this are so used to being in pain that it doesn’t hurt so bad anymore, so you put it off.
Thirty years later, you’re still struggling.
Make a list of what’s at stake if you don’t do the things you need to do. When you’re not motivated, look at that list and remind yourself of those things.
Manifesto #3 - Be honest with yourself & ask yourself if you even want the thing you say you want
This is a big one.
Most people think “it would be nice” to lose ____Ibs, stop binge eating, look amazing in their clothes, be confident in the bedroom, etc.
But most people don't care enough to change their behavior.
It blows me away—and I see it all the time.
An example we see all the time is the cost of our coaching program.
Someone says that they can’t afford it, but we have so many options that I can work with literally any budget.
I have even sent people to coaches outside of my company if I knew they could help AND fit their budget.
I view this stuff like search and rescue—If there are 20 people in the water and only 10 spots on the helicopter, the people who get help are the ones swimming toward the helicopter.
Most of you aren’t swimming toward the helicopter.
Once you have to put forth action, effort, or resources—all of a sudden you don’t want to do it.
Ask yourself, do you want the things you say you want?
If you do, then why aren’t your actions changing? Why aren’t you following the free content I am giving out?
Most people think it would be nice to stop binge eating, lose weight, etc., but they don’t actually want it.
Ask yourself, "Do I actually want and need this… Or is it just a nice idea?"
Manifesto #4 - Get around motivated people
This is the ultimate hack. Get around motivated people.
Getting around the right people changes things.
You see this with kids all the time—you can take a good kid, get him around the wrong group, and the good kid starts to turn into a rotten egg, too.
You are the same way.
We unconsciously become like those we spend the most time with.
If you start hanging out with people who take their health seriously, you’ll lose more weight.
If you hang out with fat, broke, unhappy, unmotivated people—then over time you’ll become just like them.
We evolve to what our environment is. It’s proven by neuroscience and psychology.
Get around motivated people.
It doesn’t have to be in person. For example, you can join my Fat Loss Simplified group, it's a hub of thousands of people who are making progress, moving forward, and winning. It’s 100% free.
Go join clubs, go out and do things, find groups of people who are the version of you where you want to be.
It’s going to be uncomfortable. You have to get in the room.
I am intimidated in every room I walk into, but I just want to get out there.
I’m not saying you can’t ever hang out with people who may be struggling with something, but you need to be very protective of your energy.
Manifesto #5 - Use any resistance as a trigger for deliberate action
When you aren’t motivated and you think, “I don’t want to do it…” That should be your trigger.
There is a book called The War of Art by Steven Pressfield that talks about this exact thing—you guys should really go buy it.
Andy Frisella calls it the bitch voice.
When you think “Oh, I’ll start over Monday,” that’s your trigger to go get it done.
Use the resistance as a sign to go execute.
Manifesto #6 - Don't be surprised when motivation leaves you without notice
Don’t be surprised when motivation leaves you.
Are you surprised when your car runs out of gas?
Of course not, it's just how things work, right?
Here is one of the most tactical pieces of advice I can give:
Imagine you’re never going to be motivated for the rest of your life. Then create a plan around that.
Think about what kind of plan and mental preparation you need to have if you are never motivated.
Now you are ready for the storm.
Most people think that motivation leads to action, but motivation is actually cultivated in this way:
Deliberate, Unmotivated Action -> Results -> Motivation
And NOT:
Motivation -> Action -> Results
You need to take deliberate, unmotivated action FIRST.
Manifesto #7 - Remember it gets easier every time you show up when you AREN'T motivated
Last one: remember it gets easier every time you show up when you AREN'T motivated.
It can be hard to show up for yourself, I get that.
BUT, every time you show up for yourself when you are not motivated, you are proving to yourself who you actually are.
For example, sometimes I wonder if I’m good at this podcasting thing—but if you listen to episode one and this episode today, it’s like two different people.
I used to get made fun of for talking all the time, and now I get paid to talk—and I have a podcast that reaches hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of people.
You get better at things the more you do them.
Every time you show up for yourself when you don’t want to, it gets easier.
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